Not inviting grandma?

To avoid drama I would invite her

I hear ya. My Grandma only made the cut because my dad is coming and they live in the same town. I don't want her in my life, let alone at my wedding. I can hear the snarky, rude comments now.....

I would invite and rise above. She can choose whether to come. If not, crisis averted but if you don't invite, that's a huge can of worms that might not go away. I try to avoid drama at all costs so there were people on our guest list that I'd rather not have had on it, but for the sake of peace in both sides of the family, I put them on the list.

@E&E2017 exactly. Like I don't want her to be a part of anything special if she comes she's just going to be another regular guest. She's always very rude to my mom, which is another reason I'm on the fence about it.

My grandmother hates FH and she's getting an invite. She also hates my mom and great aunt so chances are slim she'll show up. If she does great, if not, I won't shed tears. All her kids are invited so she gets invited. I'd be different if she'd threatened us, but she's just an old bitter woman.

One of my grandmother's is pretty much an evil, miserable person. Just a bitch really. Sorry not sorry. I barely speak to her. But I'll invite her because it's what my mother would have wanted if she were still alive.

I'm hoping she just comes to the ceremony and leaves like she did for my brother's wedding 10 years ago.

I didn't invite my grandfather because my mother and I don't have much of a relationship with him. I haven't seen him in over a decade. In my case, no one was offended that I didn't invite him, so there was no drama.

In your case, if you think it might cause drama and it would be easier to just invite her, then invite her. But if you really don't want her there, your uncle will have to just deal with it.

I'd invite her honestly.

Do you dislike your grandmother or are you just not that close with her. If it is the later, I think you should still invite her, especially if you are inviting other grandparents.

I have a grandma that's the same way! I highly doubt she would even come to my wedding if I invited her. To keep the peace with everybody, I would invite her, if she chooses to not come then that would be on her. She wouldn't ever be able to say you didn't try.

Invite her. Somebody needs to take the high road.

OP grandma be like:

How about invite ALL your grandparents, the pick out a couple that you want to really hurt, and UNINVITE them. After you invited them. They'll REALLY get the idea you don't want anything to do with them. As grandparents, they're probably emotionally weak and needy, so they'll probably keep sending you gifts and keep treating your parents like normal. And hey, just for your own comfort and fun, you can inflict a deep emotional wound that will probably have your grandparents you shunned doubled over in physical pain. You can think about that whenever you're feeling sad and alone, or you get divorced: You can remember that time you totally disregarded the fact you wouldn't exist without your grandparents and made your grandparents feel like they wanted to go ahead and die. You can always think about the gnashing and wailing that went on when they got the news.