Not inviting ex-coworkers. I feel bad...

I had a big problem with this for a while. I worked with these people for 6 years. Then I realized that I barely talk to these people and definitely don't hang out with them. Do you hang out with them still to this day? Or is it just Facebook?

Good point @Nicole. I haven't seen them in at least a year and we text maybe once every 4-5 months. Now that you got me thinking, it's 99% Facebook. But they all still think they're invited lol What have you decided to do?

Well first of all, no one should just assume they are going to be invited unless you gave them that idea. If they ask, do what I do, let them know there are some venue constraints and with your family size you can't invite all of your friends at this moment. If any of them have been married and thrown a wedding they should be more than understanding.

I'm actually doing a big NO-NO and UN inviting ex coworkers.

Not because I don't have room for them, but because after I got fired they basically just forgot about me. Not a text, phone call, or Instagram message. Nothing. My excuse: "I don't have time for meaningless friendships and forced interaction, You totally dropped me so now I'm totally dropping you off my guest list."

Don't feel bad though, you have a valid excuse

Good advice @FutureMrsTex! I like how that is worded. Yea a couple of them have been/are married. Thank you

Don't feel bad. Unless you socially interact with them outside of work, they shouldn't be invited to your wedding. Also no one has the right to assume they are invited to your wedding. If one of your ex-coworkers says anything tell them due to venue size you are having a small family only wedding.

@MrsSantamaria2015, wow! I'm kind of in a similar situation. I was in a car accident in January 2014 and I eventually was terminated because I wasn't able to return back to work because i wasnt healed yet. In the beginning they sent me texts but as the months passed, they dwindled out. I think I saw my coworkers once since the accident. Again, thank you for putting this in a different perspective for me. I'm sorry about your a-hole ex-coworkers!

@Tammy, yea I saw them once for a dinner sometime last year. Yea, I'll just keep blaming the venue lol I like that idea thank you!

@SoonToBeMrsD- No problem, yeah I was thinking about this since May and finally last week put my foot down. I shouldn't have to pay for 6 people when i don't speak to them. They even got STD's LOL. I feel bad a little but overall, they are A-holes so...

@MrsSantamaria2015, well they can use your STD as a decoration on their fridge and think of what once could have been if they weren't a-holes...lol

I switched jobs last November and had a few girls I was pretty close with. I was working there when I first met FH and had been a part of my story, so to speak. Since switching jobs, we met up for Happy Hours a couple times between Nov and Feb, but by the time I got engaged in April, we weren't so close. Furthermore, even though I group-texted them when I got engaged, I tried to set up another Happy Hour to celebrate/catch up and couldn't get a response. To me I figure if I'm going to pay the $94/head, I have to get more than a "like" on my Facebook pictures. And I've seen from your response that you're not is super-close contact anymore, so I say don't feel bad and don't make your guest list out of obligation.

SoonToBeMrsD LMAO exactly ! And i was super close to these girls, like they saw my best and worst, oh well. Thats 300 i can use somewhere else

Then I wouldn't feel too bad.

Once in a great while I get a text message from these people/I text them. But I don't see them. I like their stuff/comment on FB but that's the extent of our interactions since I left in December.

Unfortunately most work friendships end this way. But I'd say you're okay to not feel so bad!

^ @Nicole basically.

@BetsyFaye, I totally understand where you're coming from! How rude of them not to go out and celebrate with you. Come to think of it, they didn't even have the idea to celebrate with me once I got engaged! Yes, all very true. I dont have time for all that rudeassness.

@MrsSantamaria2015, $300 is a lot when it comes to wedding money! Spend wisely

@Nicole, it's really sad that work friendships have to end, especially in ways like all of ours. You really find out who your true friends are. I'm definitely feeling less and less bad thanks to you ladies.

I'll probably use it for the honeymoon

@MrsSantamaria2015, lol that's a good place to spend it!

So don't feel bad hun, it happens