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Not inviting certain people?

Future Mrs. Lowder, on February 11, 2020 at 3:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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I wasn’t feeling too bad about this up until recently. My mom has two siblings. One of her siblings’ children will be part of my bridal party and I get along with them great. My moms other sibling + family I don’t get along with very well and do not particularly like. I’ve always had trouble with their child (my cousin) and it’s just hard to image them being at my wedding. I’ve heard the proper etiquette is to invite everyone from a certain party (ex: if you invite one cousin you have to invite them all) but I’m really struggling with this. Is it wrong of me not to invite them?

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Latest activity by Sherry, on February 11, 2020 at 4:06 PM

Master January 2015
null · on February 11, 2020 at 3:20 PM
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I wouldn't say that you'd be in the wrong for not inviting them, but I would definitely expect it to cause some ruffled feathers/family drama. Etiquette-wise, you wouldn't want to invite one cousin and not the other. But at the same time, you shouldn't have to invite anyone that you don't want at your wedding. I think you just have to decide if it's worth the backlash to stick to your guns and not to invite them (which you have every right to do) or if you'd rather just avoid the drama altogether and invite them for the sake of that. I was very against inviting a lot of distant family because they're practically strangers, but it wasn't worth the backlash I was getting over it. Just have to pick and choose your battles in wedding planning!
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Marné · on February 11, 2020 at 3:22 PM
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I have a couple first cousins I'm not particularly close with. They were not invited. If anyone had a problem with it, they kept it to themselves. Ultimately, it really is you and your fiancee's day. If you dont want to invite someone, even if it's family that's perfectly fine.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on February 11, 2020 at 3:39 PM
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If you’re ok with not having a relationship with them then that’s fine lol. Just expect them to potentially be offended and upset. It’s up to you whether you care about that or not
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Sherry · on February 11, 2020 at 4:06 PM
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I have so many cousins that if I had invited them all, we would have had to rent a airplane hanger for our wedding! I only invited people I wanted at my wedding so only a few cousins made the cut.
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