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Just Said Yes May 2016

Not inviting an ex sister in law

Annamaria, on February 8, 2016 at 11:04 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Okay so I have a really F'd up situation. So I have My brothers ex wife who's hounded my mom and brother to invite her to my wedding. They'd been separated for years now and she's moved on and is even engaged again. My 2 young nieces and 1 nephew are in my bridal party. She's not paying for anything for them to be a part of my day or anything but has put me in a real uncomfortable situation. My gut says to not invite her. She tends to be hostile towards my brother when it comes to the kids misbehaving and I really don't want drama at my wedding. How do I address this??? Please help it's stressing me out and has taken away precious time from my planning a wedding that's about to take place in 3 months.

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Latest activity by FutureMrs.., on February 9, 2016 at 7:17 AM

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Ashley589 · on February 8, 2016 at 11:06 PM
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Doesn't seem very complicated to me. Don't invite her and ignore any contact she tries to make with you. Don't let her get to you or waste your time.
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Princess Crystal · on February 8, 2016 at 11:22 PM
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Don't invite her, tell her you don't want it to be awkward for your brother her being there. Or like Ashley said, ignore her.
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Jenny92 · on February 8, 2016 at 11:54 PM
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I agree, don't invite her. What purpose does she have in wanting to come? To see the kids in the wedding? Great that's what pictures are for ha. I say just say no and that's all.
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Sept2017AKBride · on February 8, 2016 at 11:56 PM
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Don't invite her. I think it's totally inappropriate of her to think she should be invited.
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Necie · on February 8, 2016 at 11:57 PM
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I'm having my niece in my wedding but I'm not inviting her father because my sister and him don't have a good relationship and honestly he doesn't need to be there
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Private User · on February 8, 2016 at 11:59 PM
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Don't invite her. My brother's ex-wife kept asking about it but I kept ignoring her and she finally got the hint. I see her pretty often still and she just doesn't mention the wedding anymore.
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MzRosaLu · on February 9, 2016 at 4:05 AM
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Umm...no. People don't get invitations just because they demand them. It's your choice.
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CaliBride2B · on February 9, 2016 at 4:10 AM
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Do they have shared custody? Any arrangements on which days she has the kids? I just ask because if she really wanted to escalate this, she might try to pull that card.
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Amberrose · on February 9, 2016 at 7:08 AM
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we arent inviting bil's ex wife. Their son will also be in our wedding.
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FutureMrs.. · on February 9, 2016 at 7:17 AM
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Agreed! Do not invite her, she's not technically even a part of your family anymore and if they wouldn't have had kids she would practically be a stranger. If they got along and were civil it would be a different story but she sounds like your special day is at risk of getting ruined.
I would say though, if she's been that borderline-psycho about getting invited, you might want to make sure she has no way of just showing up and reeking havoc.
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