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Savvy October 2019

Not inviting all my family

Cassy, on April 30, 2019 at 3:40 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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Hi there,

Wondering if anyone has advice on how to deal with this...
My Dad passed 10 years ago

and I've never been very close with his side of the family. I am planning on inviting my grandma and probably one aunt and uncle and one cousin and his wife.

However, I don't talk to anyone else or even have their numbers. We are connected on Facebook though and some of them have been commenting a lot since I've been engaged. And one cousin even wrote me and said "I want an invite to your wedding." I don't remember the last time I saw her in person.

Should I feel bad about being selective of which ones I invite? Ugh so tough because I care about them but we just aren't close...

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Furture Mrs. G, on May 21, 2019 at 2:25 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on April 30, 2019 at 3:42 PM
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You shouldn’t feel at all guilty. Do they invite you out to dinner, to their children’s birthday parties, or over for Thanksgiving? If not, it’s probably a good indication that they aren’t close enough to attend your wedding.
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VIP June 2019
Formerbride · on April 30, 2019 at 3:44 PM
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You shouldn't feel bad at all! You cannot invite everyone to your wedding. You and your future spouse should invite only those you want to and can include. Congrats!
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Dedicated April 2019
Bride 2019 · on April 30, 2019 at 3:46 PM
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My rule was, if I see you in person more than Christmas then I would invite them. (That didn’t include out of state guest)
don’t feel bad!
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VIP March 2019
Abby · on April 30, 2019 at 3:58 PM
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Don't feel bad at all! Weddings are expensive and you can't invite everyone! If you don't see or talk to these people ever then there is no need to invite them.
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Master May 2019
Chandra · on April 30, 2019 at 4:05 PM
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You shouldn't feel bad. I only invited my moms sister and her family and not her brother or his family. Same on my dads side. His brother and family didnt get invites. They've started so much drama with my family and I dont have relationships with them so why should they be invited to celebrate the most important day of my life?
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Master December 2019
Courtney · on April 30, 2019 at 5:15 PM
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Absolutely not! Both my FH and I have strained family relationships and inviting those we want there. Following his mother's death, that side of the family has all but excluded my fiancé. And the same for me- after my grandmother's death- my mom and aunt have not spoken in nearly 3 years.
If you don't want them there, then don't invite them.
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Savvy June 2019
Keirsrin · on May 1, 2019 at 4:14 AM
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It's extremely weird seeing this posted because I am in the same boat as you! My father also passed away 10 years ago, but I see his family at every holiday. I am not having his family at our wedding, just my grandparents. I know my family is upset about it but my alternative was to go to the courthouse and there would be no photos or celebration. They will have to get over it.
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Savvy October 2019
Cassy · on May 19, 2019 at 1:35 PM
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That is so crazy that we have almost the same situation! I appreciate your input, I think they will get over it too
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Furture Mrs. G · on May 21, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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I was in the same situation- I ended up sending "family" save the dates out of feeling obligated to do so... Now, I have heard some of the stuff their saying about me and I am just like- I don't even want to send them an invitation! So if I can give any advice DON'T INVITE ANYONE you don't want to. Family or not.
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