Not invited

I had one girl message me and say "Hey if youre going to send out wedding invites send them out soon so I can plan my little family to go" well first off I did not put her on the guest list as we already have 150 attendees between family and a few friends. So I simply told her "we are having a small wedding with family and very few friends. I am sorry if this is an inconvenience to you." I left it at that she did not reply. You may have to break some hearts but ultimately its YOUR day not your friends day!!! Just remember that! I am also a very blunt person so I tell it how it is!

"Im glad you're excited about our wedding however, due to limited budget/spacen we can't invite everybody. I hope you understand!"

Ugh I have had this problem too! Except its with a coworker and I don’t know how to respond without causing any conflict with her! My one year with the company will be in May, so it’s not like I’ve known her awhile. Our wedding is even smaller than most (60 people), which includes 95% family and 5% friends.

View Quoted Comment I have the same issue. We actually had to cut some non-close family members just to fit our space/budget. My colleagues keep asking me about the wedding planning and I try to change the subject because I haven't told them they aren't invited yet. I agree with others though, just have to be honest and tell them while I'd love to invite them space/budget just won't allow everyone we want to be there to get an invite.

Some people we just ignored their awkward suggestions that they'd be invited when we KNEW they would not, and did not send and invite, and they never said anything else about it. However, we had a few who REALLY pushed the issue, like texted the FOB to let him know they hadn't yet received their invite and were "afraid it was lost in the mail." Luckily, FOB had no problem being blunt, and responded, "Hey, sorry about the confusion, but the wedding is family and the B&G's friends, so you are not invited...." It was awkward, but I guess that's a risk people take when they do awkward/rude things first....

I hate how this is a thing. People should have manners and not automatically assume they are invited as weddings are intimate and can be very costly. I have coworkers who I get along with really well, but I just don't have the budget to invite all of them and there's a lot of them. They mention all the time that they're still waiting for a save the date and I just smile and laugh. It really puts us in a difficult position, but I guess you just got to be assertive and have the conversations that you wish you didn't have to go through.

Just don't send them an invitation. If they, just let them know that your wedding will be very intimate and only allows for immediate family members and that you hope that you will be able to celebrate with them another time.