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Not invited to the ceremony but to dinner?

The Sealpups, on August 6, 2019 at 8:26 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

My FH's sister and her family are not part of the wedding. FH created a facebook invite for rehearsal at the church and rehearsal dinner. She's only invited to the rehearsal dinner but he still added her for the facebook invite. I didn't want there to be any confusion, so he added this:


Not everyone invited is required to be at the rehearsal but 99% of you are so you should know if you need to be at rehearsal or not. We just don't want those who know they aren't walking down the aisle to feel obliged to be at the rehearsal.


I told him that he could've just texted them to tell them about dinner but he insisted on adding her to the facebook group. Was his note okay?

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Latest activity by Melissa, on August 6, 2019 at 10:17 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    That's something FH shouldn't have posted on FB. Also, why is FH's sister invited to the RD but not the ceremony?

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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    Do you mean not invited to wedding rehearsal but is invited to the rehearsal dinner????

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    Devoted September 2012
    The Sealpups ·
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    I agree. He did do a private event facebook invite but I personally think facebook event invites are tacky.

    His sister is someone who is "VERY IMPORTANT" (and she's kind of this entitled B). They come from a very close-knit family, so she has to be included, even though she is not part of the ceremony. I did tell him that rule of thumb - if you're not part of the ceremony, you're not invited to dinner. His parents are taking care of rehearsal dinner so I'm sure they were gonna have her come regardless.

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    Devoted September 2012
    The Sealpups ·
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    Yes. She's not part of our wedding at all but it was inevitable she was going to dinner, since her parents are hosting. I just don't know why he still added them to the group.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    Thanks for clarifying! I misread and thought she wasn't invited to the ceremony at all.

    I can definitely see why you're frustrated. At least his parents are footing the bill, so I wouldn't dwell on it too much!

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  • Melissa
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    Melissa ·
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    It is perfectly fine for her to be invited to the dinner as she is immediate family. We will also most likely do a private Facebook event to let our group know. My sister did the same and 0 people had issues.
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