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Jenny
August 2022

Not having my toddler at my wedding?

Jenny, on March 8, 2022 at 2:23 PM Posted in Planning 1 7
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Hello! I am getting married in August and our son will be 2 and a half. He is starting to get into a little bit of toddler tantrums and he does really well on a schedule. We are thinking of having him come to the rehearsal dinner the day before so our guests can see him, we can get some family photos, and he can run around. But the following day, we might have him stay home with a babysitter. Our venue is an hour from our house, on a river with not a lot for him to do. I think he will be much happier with his own routine and where he can sleep in his own bed. We can then relax and enjoy our day, knowing that he is happy and taken care of. I know I will miss him but I'm trying to think of what is best for my child. Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Paige, on March 10, 2022 at 2:26 PM
  • Mayumi
    Dedicated September 2022
    Mayumi ·
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    Can you bring him with a babysitter, maybe not for the whole wedding but for partial? I think when he looks back, he’d like to see pictures of himself with his mom on her wedding day. Smiley smile
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I agree with this. I can understand why having him with a sitter may be best, but will you be prepared for his questioning and possible anger about why he wasn’t at the wedding when he’s a little older? My oldest daughter was a bit older than he is when my husband and I got married, but I couldn’t imagine not having her involved in that day- family took over with her for the most part until her dad picked her up.
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  • Samantha
    Super May 2022
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    If its possible to have the sitter take him home after an hour or whatever, I think thats a good compromise. If not possible, I would definitely leave him home. My older kids (6 and 12) will be taken home shortly after dinner as they will be bored. Nothing wrong with enjoying the evening, just you and your new spouse.

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  • S
    Super September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    I think if you feel good about that decision and think that’s what’s best for everyone then you know him and you best and that’s a fine choice! Just make sure you’re okay with it. If you look back on your day and at your wedding pictures will you be sad he wasn’t there at all? I think that would be the only thing to think about.
    Like others suggested, maybe bring the babysitter and have him leave early! But again, you know your situation best, so what feels right to you.
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  • Miranda
    Savvy April 2022
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    I personally couldn't do that. But that is your choice. My son is 6 but has tons of issues and needs to be on a schedule as well. We believe our wedding is an important day for him as well since he gets a new mom that day. So we planned our wedding to go with his schedule as well. I get that everyone can't do that or don't think about doing that. In the end it's your choice though you gotta do what's right for your family. Maybe you could do as other suggest ans have the sitter take him back home or even get a hotel near for them to take him there?
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  • L
    Dedicated June 2023
    Linda ·
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    It sounds good to me.

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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
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    I think it depends on how long your kiddo would be able to sit tight during your ceremony/ reception. If he'd be able to sit through the ceremony with a grandparent, aunt, cousin, babysitter etc. you could maybe have him there for the ceremony and pictures after then have someone take him home for the rest of the day/ evening.

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