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Beginner October 2023

Not Having a Videographer

Brittany, on June 7, 2023 at 9:16 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 17
Starting a discussion to get thoughts on my situation that I just can't seem to let go! Anyways, I began planning my wedding having all intentions of getting a videographer - I love photos and videos, looking back over the years is the best. When I booked, the one I LOVED and just felt like I needed to have was 2k over our budget - but our budget was also made based on my sister’s wedding numbers which was years ago - so figured it was a bit out of date, and hey, I’ll deal with the money later.

Fast forward to Feb/Mar, my fiancé saw the numbers of what is left to pay (estimated) and got our flower and décor numbers. We also started house hunting to try and find a place in a different city ASAP due to family health issues. Anyways, he was NOT about to be in debt over the wedding and made me do a big cut. Since we already did our Save the Dates (250 people…got out of control fast), he said we had to nix the videographer. I tried other cuts but nothing was as big as this vendor. We lost 1.2K from the deposit; but was able to put the other 2.4K spent/refund to our photographer payment and saved the final 1.2K payment.


Anyways, all this to say, I can’t stop thinking about not having a videographer! I know financially it makes sense and we obviously can’t book a new one at this point being so close to the date; and even raw footage just for ceremony and speeches/dances would be at least 1K. We decided to have two friends video on their iPhones with a tripod the ceremony, speeches, dances; and then are going to do a photo sharing app I will provide info to all our guests to share any photos and videos - even including the info and stating “take a bunch” on a thank you/info paper in the napkin of the place setting.


Yet I still find myself looking up people I know who had a wedding recently, and seeing if they had videographers. I know plenty who didn’t, but it was more they didn’t want one. Have any of you wanted a videographer but budget couldn’t allow? Guess I am just looking for similar experiences on this one and/or reassurance that all will be okay. My OCD brain can’t let it go and seeing anyone have a wedding on the IG feed makes me spiral. Wedding planning with anxiety is not fun - but I know the day is going to be great!

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Latest activity by Brittany, on July 11, 2023 at 10:34 AM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    There are actually companies that allow you to rent professional quality video cameras, and come with video instructions on how to set them up and get the best footage. You then returned everything after the wedding, and they edit a video for you.
    Another option would be to look on thumbtack. Obviously you aren’t going to get the same quality video as an extremely experienced videographer who charges $5000, but you will at least get a decent video of your celebration, and not have to designate the job to guests.
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  • LM
    Expert December 2022
    LM ·
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    If this is one of your top 3 vendor and wedding priorities, I don't think it's fair that your partner overruled it. Work together on trimming something down you care less about. Do you really care about all 250 people? Find comparable videographers that don't use drones or other add-ons.

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  • K
    Super September 2023
    Kimberly ·
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    You can always do the research and have a few options to reach out to last minute. You never know! You’re doing the smart thing by budgeting for 100% of your invite list, but with 250 people, chances are the number of declines will eventually free up some funds to put toward videography. It’ll be super last minute since you’ll have to wait for your RSVPs, but just do the research now and make an extensive list so can start busting out calls when/if you get room in your budget.
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  • B
    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    Thank you Cece! Do you know of a specific company that does that or just know that service exists? Might be an option instead of iPhones - I am just worried sound quality from them might not be the best since it is outdoors. Hopefully a professional quality video camera will pick it up better - we are planning on mics too.

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  • B
    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    Ugh - short answer, no, but we already sent out save the dates to our guests besides like 5 couples. I should have been better earlier on in the planning process and stuck to a 200 headcount but I kept saying "it's fine, it's fine." Plus when we put the 250 in our budget, it worked. Issue is overall some of the other areas did not have a realistic budget, esp flowers/decor. I also should have not booked a videographer 2K over my budget that I made - at the time I thought it would be fine and we could cover it, but with the other areas going over budget plus the house we just bought...it is just too much. All advice I wish I knew a year ago, or realistically listened to from my mom and fiancé haha! I am more now just kicking myself for these mistakes.

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    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    That is a great idea honestly - but of course reached out to the soon to be hubby and he mentioned all the other areas we are over budget/need to save any money we can. Just two really big high dollar events - a house and wedding - happening in the same year. And I for sure should have been a better saver from my engagement to now - but at the time thought the help from our parents plus the little my fiancé and I were contributing would be more than enough. Turns out everything is way more expensive than we thought and all these little fees add up. I am just complaining at this point and wondering if anyone else has been in this situation - but really do appreciate the advice and can't thank you enough!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Do people not use video cameras anymore and video cameras that are automatically installed on their modern smartphones? Many of the modern phone cameras are making Hollywood films now due to the improved quality so that is not a strike against them. A video camera separate from a phone has become more compact than the versions from most people’s childhoods that captured yearly family events, including family weddings. Both of those are options that people already own and thus cost nothing to use. So video expenses are negligible compared to a vendor. Put the camera on a tripod and let it run.
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  • LM
    Expert December 2022
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    Skills for professional video editing and the artsy clip montage are where costs lay. Anyone can make a home movie on a tripod.

    OP, overall it is best to let your guests stay guests and send you short highlights if they desire. Hire a professional who makes it their job to give you what you really want.

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  • LM
    Expert December 2022
    LM ·
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    Just read your replies. With 4 months left, perhaps you can change out some extras to make room in your budget for Video. Then, use that emergency list Kimberly recommended when you do find extra money from declines. Now's your chance to be resourceful and strict with cost-cutting. If you don't learn budgeting both funds and expectations now, this will be a problem later as a homeowner. Do make sure you factor in vendor tips.

    Nix the following if not already booked: getaway car, transport, extra rentals, new shoes, new accessories, welcome bags, favors, ceremony programs, expensive signage, catering add-on's, wedding MC's.

    Modify rehearsal dinners to something more casual, trim guest list to immediate family and WP. Modify bachelorette parties and showers (IMO, brides/ grooms should pay for some costs). If no WP, skip formal dinner and have a drop-in cocktail welcome party for out of town guests.

    Move honeymoon to later in the calendar year.

    Keep: beauty trials, WP and parent gifts, Floral/ decor as set by contract. If declines lead to fewer tables and fewer centerpieces, ask for contract revision, but they may just make bigger floral pieces. Keep beauty contracts as changes will not result in reduced costs.

    Good luck.

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  • Lara
    Savvy June 2023
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    Every single thing LM has suggested above. Try to get rid of florals or lessen the price somehow. Check your contract/ speak to your florist.

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    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    Agreed with Michelle but also you LM! If we had the extra funds or I was smarter earlier in the planning process would 1000% have kept my videographer. But our financial situation right now, the iPhone will have to be our go to - which as you mentioned is good quality! We have some friends and family that can edit our guests videos and then the ones we are asking (and for sure providing them a gift for the help like anyone in the wedding party!!) to do the ceremony, speeches, and dance!
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    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    Thank you so much for these recommendations! Luckily after we made that major cut, my fiancé is okay where everything else stands. But I should have taken into account all those before posting here two months after cancelling and now with only 3.5 months left. I feel like even if I found someone at this point, wouldn’t be what I wanted or worth the money and future hubby has already told me to move on haha aka no wiggle room for a couple thousand to book a new one. So, just going to stick to the iPhone videos!


    Main regret was not taking budgeting seriously! I could have found someone in my original 3K budget back in 2021 that would have been more than great, but went over it to get the best of the best. I just feel like now the ones worth over 1K would be booked and again we don’t have that money to shell even that out because most of those items you suggested to cut are already booked/bought themselves. All in all super bummed it didn’t work the way I wanted, learned a lot on what I should or shouldn’t have done; but I guess I gotta move on and be thankful that I have amazing friends and family willing and eager to capture the big moments. And then the rest of the small videos I think will be from guests just having fun and sharing them, which will honestly be the best to look back at!
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    Beginner October 2023
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    I definitely should have done that before cancelling my videographer. Maybe did candles as the main centerpieces on some tables versus floral pieces. Still my fiancé wanted a couple thousand cut and a few tables here and there were not adding up to enough in his eyes. I did all the decor cuts I could think of but still keeping it pretty/the look I wanted; and he was happy with that, but still wanted a big vendor to go! I would have had to make a major cut to decor in a venue that is a bit dated, so prob would have been cringing at the video if I had to cut that to get a videographer! But as I said to LM, thank you so much for the advice - lots of regrets but gotta move on!
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  • LM
    Expert December 2022
    LM ·
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    Great attitude. It can be hard fighting the maximalist urge. But, like your FI supports, you just got to make the decision to move on. Keep being a team, you two got this.

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    Beginner October 2023
    Brittany ·
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    Thank you so much for your support and advice! 🥹💗
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I know you are understandably disappointed about having to cancel the videographer and have deep regrets about letting the budget get out of control, but, honestly, besides marrying the love of your life, that could be one of the best take-aways from your wedding. Just think how much more motivated you'll be about budgeting and making good financial choices in the future. The number one cause of marital problems and divorce is money issues. If your new understanding helps you and your future husband work together as a team to make wise financial decisions and stick to your agreed upon budgets, that will have a much more important long-term effect than a beautiful wedding video. Good luck! Smiley heart

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    Beginner October 2023
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    A great look on things - thank you so much! Smiley heart Smiley heart

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