Not having a Maid of Honour

Just pick one. Anyways, I've been a maid of honor twice and I never signed the marriage certificate.

I didn't choose. one emerged as more into it than the others and WANTED to throw me a bridal shower and bach party. She also volunteered to do DIY card box and wedding signs for us so she just became MOH

I can't choose between my two sisters either :/. I'm thinking of asking my closest friend who is one of the bridesmaids.

Why not ask your mum's to sign the certificate? No rule says it has to be moh/bm

Ask your sisters. Have either of them expressed interest in it? You don't HAVE to have a MOH - maybe your sisters can join together to plan your shower and bach party...then have either one of them sign the certificate if you need to.

It's really ok not to have a MOH. I wouldn't choose between your sisters, especially if it would cause hurt feelings or affect your relationship with one of them. All of your attendants can be bridesmaids. Anyone can sign the license. You can designate one sister to sign the license and stand beside you during the ceremony, and the other to give a toast at the reception. But neither has to be called Maid of Honor.

I did not designate anyone as MOH either. I have four ladies in the wedding. My three best friends - bestie since 7th grade, bestie that I met in college and bestie that I met after college. Then the 4th is FH's sister. There was no way I was choosing one friend above the other and it doesn't feel right to name his sister above them as she lives abroad so I've been around her twice in my life.

I didn't think of the marriage certificate though. Hmmm...Maybe we'll have the moms sign if we need two signatures. I'll ask my officiant.

You don't have to have a MOH with the title, however one of them will be standing directly behind you (depending how you're coordinating everything) and it will be assumed that she is the MOH.

I do not think you have to have one. If he is having a best man you might want to. There is nothing saying you have to.

My church also recommended having parents sign the marriage licence. You can pick who does that!

It is your wedding and if you do not want to because you don't want to choose than you shouldn't have to. Don't add the stress to yourself.

Have the oldest sister sign the certificate honestly I don't think anyone signed our certificate except the priest. We just had to list their names and I don't think they even knew. My sisters stood next to me in age order, oldest closest. Then blood related cousin then unrelated "cousin". They were all 21 or under in age so didn't throw a shower or anything

You don't have to have one. All of your girls can take on different MOH duties.

I think it's fine not to have one. I originally had 3 bridesmaids. I later decided to ask my aunt/godmother to be my matron of honor because I thought it would be a nice gesture.

One can stand beside you and hold your bouquet. The other can sign the certificate or make the toast.

There's no reason you have to designate one BM as the MOH. My DH had 3 groomsmen and he knew one of is brothers would throw a fit if he wasn't the best man, so DH didn't have a best man, just gave all three guys the title of groomsman.

I would talk to them about it. my mom has 4 sisters, and each of them has been another's MOH. if you are all really close, maybe you have the older sister be your MOH, when your older sister gets married she has your other sister be her MOH, and the other sister has you as the MOH. unless one is already married, in which case you could have one as the maid of honor and one as the matron of honor.

otherwise, there is no reason you have to have a MOH. but remember one will be paired up with the best man, which could make it seem like that one is the MOH

I'm not picking one to save myself drama and hurt feelings in the group. I just told them I think the idea of a MOH is silly. It's kind of like saying "you are all my best friends, but I like the MOH just a bit more than the rest of you."

They laughed and don't care.

I don't think you have to have a MOH. I didn't have one for my wedding because the person that I wanted to have that job passed away a few years ago and while I'm close to the girls that I asked to be my bridesmaids, we just don't have the same connection as my other friend and I did. This actually worked out well for my hubby too as he couldn't pick between his 2 best friends to be best man so he didn't have a best man either. We ended up having our respective fathers sign the marriage certificate as that is the tradition from our culture.

Thanks for all the opinions! You ladies are the best