Not going as planned

Well have you reached out to them for advice? People typically won't approach you and begin offering suggestions and advice for wedding planning (and if they do we often think they are opinionated and meddling lol). I think you need to reach out to them and ask for the help.

View Quoted Comment I have. The one is really crafty with her Cricut, and I’ve asked for her help in crafting decor type things. But that was before the baby. Now I feel like having her make those things with me would be interfering with bonding with her new baby. I don’t know, it might just be all in my head.

The reality is that they now have something else bad takes over their lives and having a baby is a lot. It's really understandable that they don't have time to discuss wedding plans with you. I would definitely say that the wedding planning supposed to be on you and your future husband. I would just suggest that you can maybe on occasion come over to the house even with their babies just to hang out with them. I don't think your bond should be based on your wedding planning because eventually your wedding day will come and go. I will try to build a stronger Bond based on just getting to know them and having a common ground on some things.

Unfortunately this happens a lot. I've had friends that I've grown apart from because they have a baby. It's not that I don't love them or cherish their friendship anymore. We just don't have the same lifestyle and priorities anymore. I have two soon to be SIL's. They're both in their 30's and I'm in my early 20's. While they're both wonderful people, I'm closer with the one that isn't married and doesn't have any kids because she's able to come down and visit for the weekend or go grab drinks. The one with a child does not have that luxury. I know it's tough. Just know that they probably aren't intentionally being that way. Coordinate with the husbands and see if they could watch the babies for an afternoon so y'all can go have dinner or something. I'm sure they'd appreciate the break too.