Not getting emotional when looking for a wedding dress...is there something wrong with me!

Don't fall prey to the belief that you have to have a "Say Yes to the Dress" emotional breakdown. When you find the perfect dress, you'll know it! You won't be able to stop staring at yourself, you won't stop smiling, and you won't want to take it off. I LOVED my dress and had absolutely no tears, etc. Everyone reacts differently!

I tend to get very emotional about the smallest things but I did find that I didn't get super emotional about my dress....I teared up when I saw myself in the very first dress I tried on and I teared up when I saw myself in the dress I ended up choosing while I was wearing my mom's veil. But when I first put that dress on? Nothing. I knew I loved it but just seeing me in the dress didn't make me emotional - it was seeing me in the dress with the accessories, which made it feel real. So if you really like this dress and like the way you look and feel and you haven't found anything that beats the feeling you have when you wear this dress then you found your dress!

My dress took a month to get in and 2 weeks to alter from David’s bridal. I did get my dress early in the engagement though. I’m surprised they said it will take that long for you to get a dress. I don’t think it’s bad that you didn’t get emotional because I didn’t get emotional either. I feel like you will know which dress is the one even if you don’t get emotional.

I didn't get emotional over either of my dresses. I bought them because they looked good, were well priced, and fit the locations that I was wearing them for. Media plays up the idea that women will have "the emotional moment" when they know they've found the right dress, but that isn't the case for a vast number of women. Go with the dress you love the most, regardless of others' opinions. Honestly, my favorite time was dress shopping by myself because I was able to focus on things I liked without worrying about others' inputs (and I was able to try on more dresses because I wasn't parading about in all of the "nos".

2 things.


1) There is nothing wrong with you. Not everyone has a big emotional moment when they find their dress. Some people it is delayed and they feel it when they put their veil on, others start to feel it at their fitting, and some only start to get teary on their wedding day when they are getting ready. Some people never have that moment and are just as happy with their choice. If you like your dress, don't cave to the pressure of others.
2) If you want to keep looking you have time. Buying a dress that takes 6 months to arrive is not your only option. There are plenty of dresses you can buy off the rack: sample dresses, consignment, or a gown from a prom/formal wear store.

I didn't get emotional at all - there is nothing wrong with you! At the end of the day you're buying a dress, that's all. I would venture to guess most people don't have the big teary AHA moment. Find a dress that you like, feel good in, and flatters you - that's really all you need to look for!

There is nothing wrong if you don't get emotional. I picked out a dress last year at the height of the pandemic with only my mother-in-law because the store was having a closing sale. It felt right, I bought it then and there with no tears or hoopla. Sometimes you need to make practical, not emotional decisions. Go with your gut!

I don't think there is anything wrong with you; of course I didn't get emotional either! ;-) I had two dresses that I was really torn between (and am) but I did pick and end up ordering one of them. They each have unique features that I love and I could debate them until I'm blue, but went with my gut and ordered the one that I felt the best in. It's definitely a hard choice, they're all so pretty but I would go with one that makes you feel beautiful and confident.

We are date twins lol .


There is nothing wrong with you! I didn’t get emotional with my dress I was just excited and very happy

I didn’t cry, but I got overly happy and knew I just loved certain dresses. I don’t think I’m the type to cry or get overly emotional, and I don’t think all people are that way.

It took me about 150 dresses to try on until I found something I loved and then I found 3 all at once and couldn’t choose. Finding “the dress” is kinda like love -you can absolutely fall in love with multiple (well, love multiple people in your lifetime I mean). Just breathe, eventually you will find something you love!

I didn't feel anything either. I never had that moment that you expect full of emotion and crying. I ended up choosing a second dress after postponing a year out due to COVID. I smiled a lot when trying it on, but didn't have a big emotional moment. I was hoping that I would as we've all been conditioned to expect it to happen, but it's just one of those things that doesn't happen for everyone I guess.

I didn’t cry. I really liked my dress but was sad I wasn’t giddy or teary eyed. When it came in though and I tried on a veil, I had that misty moment!!

Nah, I was excited about my dress and the whole experience of trying on dresses but didn't get emotional or tear up when I found "the one." I tear up over other stuff, like when I think about our ceremony / my vows or even spending time with my bridesmaids getting ready that morning - anything that relates more directly to the special moments I'm looking forward to having that day. I really shopped around and am sure there's nothing out there I'd love more, but I think when I look at my dress I'm more focused on the aesthetics so it doesn't really bring up those "I'm getting married" emotions in the way that other parts of the planning process do. Everyone is different - doesn't mean you haven't found the right dress!

Also re: time - my dress did take 6 months to come in because it was ordered in a custom length (I'm really short), but then it came in and was NOT a custom length and would've required thousands of dollars in alterations to fix b/c it isn't an easy style to shorten - oof! But the salon I ordered from called the designer and they said "our fault, we'll ship a new one out within 4 weeks." So, yes it can take a long time but if there's a need to do it faster, often they can work with you. Just make sure you work with a shop that has great reviews for customer service and coming through for their brides in tough situations - a good one will take care of you if you get into a crunch. Good luck!!

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All of this! I didn't cry initially in my wedding dress, I was smiling so big and everyone said I just looked lit up and happy in it. I DID cry though because my best friend started crying and I'm one of those people who immediately starts crying whenever I see ANYONE cry, so I was literally just crying because she was. If I didn't see her I never would have cried. So nothing wrong with you! Just keep looking and I'm sure something will work for you.

Also, I don't know exactly where you are looking...but most bridal boutiques offer dresses that can be done in a shorter amount of time, so if you get really worried about that, just ask them! I got my dress at David's Bridal and it came in within a month.

I didn’t feel anything at all either & im the same way, yoga pants & tshirt kinda girl. I had purchased my dress “off the rack” meaning it wasn’t new but a sample dress and it fit, I didn’t look bad, it’ll do the job. The lady was more excited than I was. Lol

With the pandemic it’s understandable. I wasn’t in tears when I saw my dress. I’m like that’s the dress. I’m not the dress type either. I love my hoodies and jeans.


When you find one you like try on other dresses there go back to it.
I tried on 10. My dress I picked was like number 5 and when I tried the other 5 only one other one got a 8 (1-10 on the scale) the others I’m like no no no. So I tried on both dresses the one that was a 8 I’m like no and picked the other dress.
So really another way is to go several places if that one still in your mind sleep on it when you wake up try it again at the place.
Enjoy the time trying on dresses push everything out of your mind as best as possible. It will be your day no matter how many times you have to push it so pick and make sure you are absolutely happy as the beautiful bride you will be. ☺️
Good luck happy shopping

Update: I want to thank everyone who replied, it definitely calmed my anxious brain down. I did end up finding THE dress, it is completely opposite of what I was initially looking for which may be one of the reasons I wasn't feeling much with the first few I tried on. On my last visit I decided to only take one bridesmaid and my aunt to avoid a million opinions which helped a lot. There were no tears but I'm sure that I will be balling on 1.22.22!

Everyone feels differently about clothing, you don’t have to get emotional. You should feel beautiful in the dress you choose. Good luck.