Not feeling Bride Like

I feel ya - I was really into wedding stuff but then I absolutely hit a wall where I wasn’t into planning anything at all anymore and I took an extremely long break from it. Some people just aren’t really as into the idea of planning a wedding or into weddings in general.

I totally agree! I had to postpone my wedding already and postponed my bridal shower (4 times). Also had to cancel my bachelorette party and am currently praying I can have my wedding this August. I have been so stressed over this it really sucked the fun out of being a bride. I also feel like every time I get excited again everything around you just gets worse. Hang in there I’m with you!

View Quoted Comment Yes same! I had to postpone my shower 4x, too. And now we know we can have our wedding 8/2 but we know some of our loved ones who we wanted there won’t feel comfortable traveling. But I am trying to accept that’s just how weddings will be for the foreseeable future. It does take some joy out of it, though.

I totally feel that way! I’m getting married on my original date July 17 but everything else prior was cancelled all the fun I was looking forward to and the excitement is just gone I’m obv so happy to be marrying my best friend but covid truly took away all the fun moments of this I’m very sad about it too I totally feel you and I don’t really feel like a bride at all

View Quoted Comment Omg my wedding is 8/2 as well! Date twins! And I totally understand how you feel, But I agree I am trying to be as happy as I can be during all this. You can always have a fun dinner party with your loved ones who didn’t attend when this is all over! Best of luck to you on your wedding day!!

It's totally ok if planning isn't your thing! It's a LOT of work. Can you hire a planner, or look for an all-inclusive venue that'll bundle some things for you????

You’re not alone. I am excited for my wedding, but I am SO over planning it. Between all of the expenses, and having postponed once, and all the things that still need to be done and paid for, I’m just ready to be done with it all. I am hoping my bridal shower next month gets me feeling more excited about the final stages of planning.

Girl, SAME!! I haven't felt like a bride since the first wee blush of our engagement! We never got engagement pictures done, no bridal shower, no engagement party....it's just been a really craptastic engagement phase! Add to that the stress of planning things all by yourself (or with FH's help) but not having your bridesmaids excited or anything (wait is that just mine?)....yeah. Not the fairytale engagement I've been dreaming of since I was a kid raised on Disney movies!

I guess that's just the card we drew as the #covidbridetribe

You’re totally fine!! You’re supposed to be more excited about marrying you FH than the planning. All of the planning and “must h

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...All of wedding hoopla that’s fed to brides is too much and creates the unnecessary pressure and stress, if you let it. I always say.... wedding planning is only as hard and stressful as you make it.

So, you’ve got it right by focusing on the marriage because it’s the most important aspect (yet too many brides spend more time on the details of their wedding than they do on the marriage)

I felt the EXACT same way when I first started. It was just overwhelming for me with the costs. It just felt like this money could be used better elsewhere. I just think the planning of the wedding part just isn't fun. Everyone just assumes it is so fun to figure out who to go for with each vendor and then budget out all your costs... IT'S NOT.

Maybe try doing something related to the wedding to get you excited? Even if it's just picking out some music with FH or practicing your first dance.

I have been dreaming about the planning process of my wedding since I was a teenager and covid has me more anxious than I have ever been! I constantly feel stressed because I'm not sure if I'll even be able to get married this year, but also don't want to drag all this stress out into 2021 when everything is so uncertain. The most important thing is committing to a lifetime with my FH and celebrating our love... OF COURSE! That doesn't mean that I can't be stressed about this whole thing that sometimes makes the wedding feel like a task. Like you, I don't know what I'm supposed to feel like, but I know it's not like this. I just keep thinking that in the future after my wedding, all this stress will not even matter. Ah the human mind is so complicated!

I had this exact conversation with my FH last night. I've been struggling because my FH and I chose to have a small bridal party, just my sister and his brother, and we're not doing traditional bachelor/bachelorette parties. It feels like I've planned everything and I've been excited but no one else seems to be so I just don't talk about my wedding. Part of it for me is that my sister got married December 2018 and that's all anyone could talk about for the year leading up to the wedding. I've reached the point that I just want to get to the wedding and just be married. My FH is the only reason I haven't had a full blown breakdown over it. I'm so frustrated and he gets it so he'll let me rant as long as a I need to and then give me wine. I hope you get the perfect wedding and get to feel like a bride