Not excited about dress shopping?!

You're not broken! You might not feel excitement for dress shopping until you're actually at the dress shop, picking out styles, and trying on the dresses. I do think there's a lot of unnecessary pressure to find "the" dress, because there isn't only one single dress in the whole world that will look good on you, there are many! Find a dress that you feel comfortable and confident in and that you can see yourself walking down the aisle in, or you could even customize a dress. Keep an open mind, and don't put pressure on yourself to immediately find a dress! If unsure whether you want to commit to a specific dress, walk away and take a couple days to think about it. Sometimes it also takes visiting multiple shops to find a dress that you feel ready to say yes to. Happy dress shopping, let us know how it goes!!

You're totally fine

It looks like your wedding is in December, so it's almost a year away. Sometimes it doesn't really hit you that you're getting married until closer to the date or when more plans are in place that allow you to have a clearer picture of what the day will look like.

I don't recall being particularly off-the-walls excited when I went dress shopping either. We were about a year and a half away from the wedding, and I was just going to look at dresses with my mom to get some ideas. I wasn't planning to even buy a dress then (but I'm apparently a terrible browser lol). Then COVID hit, we postponed the wedding, and we were pretty averse to making any concrete plans for a while. We were basically just stagnantly engaged without making any strides towards getting married for nearly 2 years. I don't think I really "felt like a bride" until I had my shower about 5 months before the wedding. I enjoyed planning, and I was thrilled to be getting married, but the real "OMG WE'RE GETTING MARRIED!" excitement didn't really set in until we sent our invitations and started getting RSVPs back.

All that to say, it's totally normal not to be jumping up and down with excitement 24/7. Just let yourself enjoy the process and have fun with it

Not to worry! As Lisa said, this is normal for us to feel sometimes. I do think society plays up the dress shopping experience and tells us it’s supposed to be “magical”. Mine didn’t feel “wow, magical, princess, oh my gosh!” hahahaha, but I can say it felt right once I found the dress that felt *true to me and how I like to portray myself*
I’d advise to go into shops with that expectation.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to find “the one” and also to find a dress on your first visit. It took me 7 dress shops before I was able to decide 😂

You are definitely not broken! Society puts too much pressure on finding the perfect dress. But like Lisa said there is no single dress, there are many!

I wasn't particularly excited about dress shopping either. I wasn't planning to buy anything at first. I just wanted to try things on, see what silhouettes I felt most comfortable in, and get ideas. I had gained a little weight so part of me was actually dreading it. But I found a dress that caught me by surprise and I ended up buying it at my first appointment.

But there is nothing wrong with taking your time and potentially having multiple appointments. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself or this first appointment. If you find something you love, then great! But try to go into the appointment knowing that it'll probably take a few. And try to enjoy the process!

Do you normally like dress shopping? If not, I don't see why this would be super exciting for you. My sister doesn't and actually didn't enjoy dress shopping because of that. My opinion on wedding dresses is that there's no "perfect" dress or even a wrong dress. As long as you like it, feel good in it, and it's the right price, you got the right dress!

I don't think there is anything wrong with that! I felt that my first appt but it isn't always the case. Maybe you are just more excited about your venue than your wedding dress or any other part of the wedding. Or maybe just being married excites you and not the wedding. Everyone is different. And everything affects us different. So of course your excitement will be different too.

Your not broken I don’t don’t get that zing from the dress really actually the dress I bought was the one I hated the most on the rack but liked it much more. My zing comes when I think of celebrating getting to marry the man I loved and family and friends being there.

OMG so sorry for the delay in response, and thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragement!! I still had jitters up until the appointment and during the beginning of it in truth, but I FOUND THE DRESS! Admittedly I was stuck between 3 in the end, but once I saw my mom's veil match perfectly with one (and the fact I would change literally nothing about it), I knew that was it! Cue the happy/relieved tears... and an epic nap when I got home!!

View Quoted Comment Aww, yay!! Congratulations on finding your dress!