Not even a card? I don't get it.

Thanks for posting this...because we thought it was odd too...maybe they thought an empty card is just a reminder they didn't give you a gift? I dunno, but we were shocked too.

That is very strange. I'm no etiquette expert, but it seems like poor form to not give a card.

We had about 7 people/couples who didn't bring a gift or a card to my wedding. It was 8, but we got one in the mail about 3 weeks after our wedding.

The hubby and I don't need anything either, and we certainly don't expect a gift, but it was really strange to see who ended up not bringing a gift or a card - one of my best guy friends, a long time family friend, etc. One of the hubby's close guy friends who didn't get anything mentioned one day at happy hour that he has a year to send us a gift...when we weren't even talking about the wedding or gifts. Who knows what goes through people's minds these days.

We had roughly half of our 82 guests not bring us a gift or card. I also am appreciative that they celebrated with us and don't need gifts but it's odd to me considering I never go anywhere without even a card. I always thought it was rude to show up at an event empty handed. Oh well, it is what it is. The only thing that pissed me off were 3 people that rsvped and no showed with no follow up, no explanation, nothing. I haven't reached out to them and they haven't made the effort to reach out to me. According to their FBs the Internet was all kinds of fun the day of my wedding, lots of fun buzzfeed quizzes that couldn't be missed.

There were two times where I didn't bring anything to a wedding, I'll admit it.

One was an old coworker's wedding that we had to travel for, so just going to the wedding cost about $350, not to mention unpaid time off work. We weren't very close and I was actually surprised I was invited.

The other was FH's best friend. FH was the best man, but again we had to travel. Flights were $1300 each, and it was about two weeks before we moved 400 kms away and I didn't have a job to go to when we moved. We couldn't afford to even go in the first place, but we made it work. I don't feel bad about not bringing a gift, because the wife's family (who we stayed with) were unbelievably terrible hosts (like, made us sleep in the yard in tents even though there was enough room for us in the house, and we didn't get fed AT ALL!). Also upon arrival FH found out we were immediately going to pick up his tux, which he had to pay the rental fee on, unbeknownst to us.

Honestly....i wasn't expecting much. i haven't been to a lot of weddings at all but i was surprised by all the cards and gifts we got. We didn't get one from everyone but i didn't know they were expected and i wasn't really expecting them! it's a good thing to know now though!

I never knew you ever had to give cards at weddings, or even presents, really. The only ones I had gone to I was very young, and then again a family wedding at 18. Never was told about the gift, was invited as my parents child, and they always took care of it. I went to two or three weddings in my early 20s where I didn't get a gift or a card, b/c I had never heard of such a thing.

I still don't understand the card, but if I get a card for my birthday I'm still a little confused. I'd rather someone just tell me Happy Birthday, than spend $5 on something I'm going to throw out.

But, some people just don't know. I hate to think of how rude they thought I was.

We only received a couple of cards/gifts however I also indicated gifts were not necessary. I thought it was odd some of them didn't even bring a card however it didn't bother me. What was really surprising is that one of the guests who did bring a card and gift was an 8 year old boy whose upbringing would not have included this type of stuff. My dad dated this boy's mother for about a year and my dad decided to remain a part of this kid's life and help out with raising him. Also, I doubt my dad gave him the idea to bring a card and gift because he did not bring anything (card was only signed by the boy). I made sure I sent him a Thank You card.

Everyone like relatives brought gifts except my best friends. I was not expecting anything but at least a card. Then I realise they must be super broke to even spend on a card but spend lots of money on their wedding and I gave them money on their wedding day. With time, I realise that it's never too late to make new friends with a great sense of hospitality, decency, and class. Fast forward, these friends would invite me to more events indicating on the RSVP that they prefer cash gifts yet they'd avoid my events. I don't like people in general that take advantage. I don't call them friends anymore.