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Just Said Yes November 2014

Not choosing one family member in wedding party

Kelsey, on November 30, 2024 at 8:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3
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My son is getting married. His fiancé has asked my son’s sister-in-law’s to be bridesmaids and his brothers next to him. His sister has been put in as a flower maiden? Causing trouble hurt feeling. How does a mother and father handle this. They need help with money also. I don’t feel like helping them at all now.
Ideas? The mom

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Latest activity by Ashlynn, on January 7, 2025 at 7:27 AM
  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    Etiquette-wise only the couple chooses their wedding parties. If your daughter is a teenager or an adult, she can voice her own disappointed feelings to the couple. She also is within her right to decline the role. Maybe she can do a reading instead.


    Any money you give to the couple is a gift and not obligatory. That said, withholding money to move your daughter into BM spot will come off as controlling, favoritism, and infantalizing. If you've done this in the past, know it does not bring a family together. I urge you to treat all as adults and let them make their own adult decisions.
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  • J
    Super March 2022
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    EXACTLY what LM said. No other notes

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  • Ashlynn
    Savvy July 2026
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    That's why you don't say anything. They wanted to be in the wedding, they pay for it.
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