Not attending the wedding - gifts

Spend however much feels comfortable to you. There is no rule about how much a gift "should" cost, whether you are attending or not.

I typically spend $100pp on a wedding gift when I attend

So far I've only gotten two cash gifts so far from a person who can't attend for $250 for her and her husband and another person gave $60 for herself so if definitely varies when you can't attend

Typically the same as if i were attending!

Honestly, I would purchase based on what you are comfortable spending and your relationship with said friend.

I would say it depends on are you buying an expensive gift for the shower? I usually buy a gift for the shower and then a card for the wedding spending about 100 or so.. Also depends on what your comfortable with.

I agree that it will depend on your relationship with the person. We were invited to a friend's wedding when we were living out of state and we couldn't attend, but she was someone I really hadn't hung out with in years - I think we sent about a $40 gift. I have another friend getting married next month, also out of state, that we cannot attend, but I'm closer to her and she also came to our wedding - will be spending probably at least $100 on her gift.

Gifts should be based on your relationship with the person, and your budget, not what someone else spends.

As others have said, it really depends more on your relationship and your budget.

I would base it on my relationship with them, just like if I were attending the wedding.

It depends on your budget and your relationship! Normally if I can not attend a wedding I'll either gift the same amount as we would if we were attending or even a little more - I'm spending way less money than if I were attending and I always feel bad RSVPing no!

It depends, but I'd buy something in the $100-200.

It depends on how comfortable you are. I've spent $100 on weddings I've attended and $50 when I wasn't able to attend

Whatever you feel comfortable with and are able to afford.

But what you can afford. There is no rule about this.