Not able to Invite everyone

I wouldn't inform my social media friends of any of that. People know that they're not invited when they don't receive an invitation, you don't need to blatantly tell them. If someone asks, you can say "I'm sorry, we're keeping the guest list to close friends and family only. We'd love to celebrate with you after the wedding." You can let them know that you're not inviting kids or plus ones by not inviting kids or plus ones, however, significant others are not plus ones and should always be invited together.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much ! That sounds right to me !


The significant other thing is rough . There is one significant other of my cousin that I don’t want to invite due to his drunken behavior . :/ guest lists are rough

I wouldn't inform anyone of anything other than those that are invited will get an invitation.

I would suggest only put all of the pertinent information on your invitation and I would probably limit what you put on social media unless you want people ask you about invitations or something such as that. In regards to plus ones that is very tricky but if you are really trying to minimize your guest list then maybe you can call all of these people and just say hey I'm just inviting you know plus ones but that will ultimately rub some people the wrong way. If a close friend or family of mine were invited me to their wedding and due to wanted to keep the guest list down they said I'm just inviting you because I know you but not your husband I would not be offended but I know some people would. Also and your invitation I would just say adults only reception and there's nothing wrong with that. I know whatever kind of party we hold it is going to be adults only unless my sister-in-law comes into town and brings my two nieces because she lives in a different state and I would feel bad asking her to find a babysitter that she does not know before our nieces to come to any celebration. My local friends they can find babysitters.

View Quoted Comment I agree with caytlyn.


Maybe you could talk to your cousin about how you feel about him? Not sure how well that would go over. I only bring it up because I was dating someone for ten years who I was living with and had a child with and my cousin didn't invite him. She told me it was because she was only giving plus ones to people who were engaged or married. I was furious. Why was my relationship less because I didn't want to get married? I had been with more than him twice as long as she had been with her FH. Then I was even more mad when I went to her wedding and people who weren't even in a relationship had gotten a plus one. Turns out she just hated my SO because he was a jerk and didn't want him there. I wish she had just been honest. I know all situations and people are different but I wanted to throw my two cents in.

I don't really think it's something to announce. If asked, I'd definitely say that space is limited. I know for sure people may ask if there's space.

View Quoted Comment I have the same issue and agree completely! This is what we are doing.

Just don't invite them. They'll get the message when they don't receive an invitation. Also, if your cousin's SO concerns you, don't invite that person.