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Andrea
Master January 2021

Not a huge deal, right?

Andrea, on March 1, 2020 at 8:41 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

Hi everyone,


So my fiance has a sister on his dad's side (same dad, different mom) and my FSIL (who is one of my bridesmaids) asked me today if it was okay if her mom wore a full length plum coloured dress in our wedding (our wedding colours are eggplant purple, white and silver). She said her mom was worried that the colours would clash too much with ours, as the bridesmaids are all wearing full length eggplant purple dresses. I have absolutely nothing against her mom. I love her mom. Her mom isn't considered... I mean it's kind of weird. Obviously my FH's dad and mom, and my dad and mom are considered apart of the wedding party. I never considered her mom as part of the wedding party at all. So it should be fine, right? She can just go ahead and wear plum? The colours are similar but there is a distinction between them. I just feel like people would assume she is apart of the wedding party somehow. Not a big deal, right?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on March 2, 2020 at 3:18 PM
  • Marie
    Dedicated April 2020
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    I think it’s super sweet that she asked, but to me no, this isn’t a big deal. Others may have diff opinions though.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    I thought that was nice she asked too. Thank you so much for your opinion, Marie!!!

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    I think it’s fine. It’s like you stated the colors are different. Don’t stress.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Thank you Margaret!!

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Honestly I do not feel people put two and two together when it comes to color schemes. I would not know if you had not said anything ha ha. I feel like we as brides are particular on the details and hardly anyone notices. I barely notice drama if it is going on ha ha. I think you will be okay. Smiley smile

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Haha, I totally hear you, Kristen!! Thank you so muchSmiley heart

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  • Amy
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    Yes it’s totally fine! My ex husband and his new wife are coming to our wedding so don’t stress. I think it’s kind
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    I think it’s nice she asked
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
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    To me it's not a big deal but it depends how you view it
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  • Aida
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    I wouldn't have a problem with it either. It's like she's kinda, sorta, not really- be in the party. It's like you said, people will assume it anyways. But you do whatever you feel is right for you and your wedding. Good luck to you and your FH and wedding.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hey Amy, oh wow!! That's cool. Thanks so much! Yeah my FSIL's mom and her dad haven't been together in over 19 years so that's also something I considered as to her not really being apart of the wedding party. Thank you so much

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hey Melle, I agree. It was super considerate that she asked.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hey girl,

    Thank you so much for your input.

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  • Nefetera
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    Np girly at all
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  • Catherine
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    The colors are different and, tbh, I think it is good she asked you. Don't worry, it is okay Smiley smile

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  • Taylor
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    It's totally fine. I've showed up to weddings in the same colors as the bridesmaids before by chance! I'm sure there will be other people that happen to wear plum as wellSmiley smile Don't stress!

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  • Jennifer
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    I agree, it is very considerate she asked, and I wouldn't think it was weird! I would find it fun that she thought to match your colors slightly!

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