Not a blushing bride

Be thankful for everyone who came to support you. Maybe you're not "girly" or "Bridal" but genuine gratefulness goes a long way.

Just be yourself. That is who your friends and family are expecting to see.

The correct response is however you choose to react to it.

For some people, getting engaged is some sort of lifelong accomplishment - not sure why. I remember someone being baffled that I didn't shout from the rooftops about being engaged on social media. I mean, we got engaged, we didn't cure cancer. Simmer down.

Look - act however you want to act. If you're not an overly emotional person like myself, that's ok.

I am not a blushing bride either, but boy do I feel surrounded my a lot of feminine gushing. Then I realized that maybe 50% is genuine interest in weddings and the remaining 50% are people gushing because they feel like that's the way I want them to react to my ring, or wedding planning update or whatever the conversation. I do the same thing (gush) when I'm happy for my friends (but don't particularly care about the topic i.e. kids).

For every one girl (or guy!) who wants to shout from the rooftop there's another that doesn't say anything. You're not the only one who prefers a more reserved approach.

Just be yourself. I tend to be more reserved with expressing my feelings as well. If someone is offended that I'm not falling over myself gushing about the wedding, so be it.

I got engaged about the same time that I got a promotion at work. People would come up and say congratulations, and I would say something like "Thank you, I've worked hard for this," only to realize they were congratulating me on my engagement.

So I get it. I am excited for my marriage, but the wedding is for our parents and to spend time with family.

I'm excited, but I can't bring my self to be the super exuberant, gushing bride. But I have never been that way over anything so I doubt anyone will expect it.

I am not really the "blushing bride" type either. We announced our engagement on Facebook by me posting a pic of my ring with a caption that said "So this happened tonight " or something to that effect. No gushing or anything.

I'm like half girly. Like I wear heels to work, I always wear earrings, I curl my hair cause I don't like it straight - but I don't wear skirts or dresses, I can't do makeup other than mascara, and I almost never wear nail polish.

Wedding wise, I SO cannot see my moh and I getting ready in silk robes and all that. I'll probably be in pj pants and a tank top while drinking a beer, lol.

I'm with ya. Be thankful and grateful for the support you recieve and just be you.

I absolutely feel the same way! There is a stigma to being a woman it seems. Haha

I don't know how to react and can tend to make things awkward. Nervous about bridal shower and bachelorette party :/

I'm not sure why you feel there are expectations to be a "blushing bride". This is my first marriage and I haven't blushed in a very long time. LOL

Just be who you are. That's the person that your family and friends love.

I am not traditionally the blushing bride either but the closer I get to the big day the more excited I am about stuff. My shower was last weekend and only 3 weeks before my wedding and my bachelorette was 2 weeks before that. Being so close to the wedding I am so excited about our big day that I am extra excited about the events that keep reminding me of our ever-closer wedding. Plus, a couple mimosas can help get you in the festive spirit!

My girlfriends put me in a gushy mood when I see them so excited for me I am actually a VERY girly girl (think Zooey deschanel in new girl) lol. I still get stressed and it makes me not so enthused about wedding stuff, and people understand that. Just be appreciative in your own way, people know you and they understand your personality

You're not alone in this. I don't think it's something to be worried about (or at least try not to worry about it). I do get the expectation that you're feeling, I feel it to. People seem to be waiting for over the top reactions or long drawn out responses, and it can get awkward (for me, at least). In the end, it's not that important. As others have said, just act genuine.

I'm a total girly girl but I'm not a "blushing bride" type either. I got a text a few days ago from an acquaintance that said, "Are you so excited? Is it going to be everything you ever dreamed of since you were a little girl?" Ummm what. I didn't ever dream of my wedding—especially not as a little girl. The moms even said "Maybe he's not the one if you aren't thinking about the wedding all the time. You're not acting like a normal bride." Ever since that, usually my response is just to be like "Oh yes! Thank you! I'm so excited!" and fake it... Reality is that FH is way more into the wedding than I am... I would've been fine with eloping.

Yep! Totally not that person. My family LOVES to bring up everything I talked about when I was in high school. How I couldn't wait to get married and have a big dress and wear a tiara. How I wanted to be a Mom by 23. Yeah...I'm 38 now and I'm not that person anymore. Who is? Just be who you are. I'm getting married. I'm not becoming a different person.

I'm very girly girl, but not a blushing bride. When I wasn't shouting my engagement from the rooftops, people would ask me why not, aren't you excited. Of course I was, but I'm a very reserved person and I don't like being in the spotlight. I usually cope by surrounding myself with people who know my true personality and make me feel comfortable. My advice just be yourself. People know you're thankful and excited.

You be yourself, but also be thankful, a thank you on that video would have been nicer than just a like.

When people ask if I been planning about this since I was a little girl, I just say no it didn't occur once to me when I was little. But I do have excitement for people who do! It doesn't matter what kind of bride you're as long as you're thankful for gifts, or whatever people do for you, and host a proper reception if you have one (food, booze).

You definitely don't have to be that way! I know lots of couples who post about their significant other and how they can't wait to be married all of the time. I'm more laid back, so I don't. Just be yourself!