None of your family invited?

FH biological maternal side is not invited due to drama and no contact in years except for random popups. I have several family members on my side I'm not inviting due to them having racist views (I'm biracial, FH is caucasian). If someone causes drama and cant contain themselves I cut them out. And so far it's only a handful of people. So I agree!

My Paternal unit was not invited and the day was almost perfect (had some uncouth, uninvited guests). I am NOT one to pretend that everything is fine and we are NOT a dysfunctional hot mess.

I may have to see him at my Maternal Grandmother’s funeral on Saturday.

I’ve let it be known that I do NOT want to see him and e-mailed my Cousin to ask him not to attend.

I am sending an invitation to my family. I don't think they will show. It does hurt to know that there is this big chance that they won't be there. Hardly anyone from my family will be there. As far as friends, I have people trying to invite themselves or people they know. I am just unsure about the whole thing.

Let me tell you my side of the story and then a lesson. My brothers CONDEMNED me and talked phooey about me all over social media and lied to my family, all because we are getting married on Halloween. They believe its a satanic holiday. Halloween is our anniversary. It has a deep meaning for us. They caused so much drama to the point where they caused me to have a mental breakdown. They even refused me to see my niece because of it.

So .......They are on the DO NOT LET IN list.

it is your wedding.

You have the decision on who goes and who doesn't.

I blocked 5 people out of the wedding so far due to too much drama.

The Wedding couple DOES NOT DESERVE drama!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So NO you are not wrong for blocking drama. Hold your head up high baby doll. Its your day to shine NOT THEIRS. PERIOT

xoxoxoxox I got your back hun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It burns me inside that people dont support our happy day.Its their loss, not ours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

I applaud you for having the guts to do it. I don't. My mom and I have never really had a good relationship. Like i feel like i'm forced to do it. I have 3 younger sister, all 15 and younger. They are basically like my children. If i only invite them, my mom and stepdad won't be all hurt and not make them go. I have seen my stepdad do that. The way i wanted to get married is to elope and no one knew we got married. My fh is the one who wants to have his family, but my dream is still to just elope. So we are having a very small wedding. But i wish i could do this but i'm too nice so they are invited.

We invited my entire mother's family.

She got offended by the invitations, threw drama, and she has not spoken to me since June 20th (when I texted her worried about floods in her area). She made my cousins also decide the invitations were offensive, one of them and one of their wives talked to us about it (they were CLEARLY disappointed DH joined the conversation), and then went radio silent when we wouldn't "explain" the invitations.

Absolutely none of them came. Most of them didn't even RSVP. (Every last one of my cousins is older than me by a significant amount. Most of them are married. They know the etiquette.) One cousin sent a gift. One still interacts with my social media, and three of the "kids" (all in college/grad school) still talk to me/interact with me. The rest have conspicuously ignored me for the past 3 months. (We used to have lots of social media interaction.) I'm contemplating unfriending all of them and just moving on, DH wants me to just unfollow.

Over paper.

(We did not invite my father's family, because he and I are ... not close to them. One of my cousins on that side lives within 2 miles of me and I never see her.)

So, my family that day consisted of: my dad, my stepmom, my dad's frat brother and his wife (they are like my aunt and uncle), and my friends.

It turned out wonderfully.

If your family isn't supportive, they don't need to be there.

I am going through the same thing. One of my sisters is not invited, my brother is not, my father recently passed. I am only inviting my mother because I am trying to be nice about it and because she is my mom and I just lost my dad so I feel bad, my other extended family will not be there. it will be my closest friends and ALL of my FH's family and friends. I used to be upset about it, but now I am not because I know they truly support us and that is all that matters.

My extended family is not invited. At one point I was thinking about inviting my grandfather and aunts from my mom's side, but there are so many ulterior motives that we decided to make it easier and ONLY invite immediate family.

I don't need the drama or the stress on my wedding day!

I’m in the same boat. I’m not inviting my older half sister because we’re not close at all, she only lived with us for less than a year I think when I was growing up so I think it’d be pointless to have her there. And then I have extended family, my dads brothers and they’re families, that there is some sort of drama that I’m not involved with but it’s still weird. So I know if I don’t invite them they’ll get offended and talk s**t, which in turn create drama. Which I kinda don’t care about since it’s our day. But, I also feel obligated to at least send an invite as a sign of respect, and I know they’ll show up because they’re nosy. I say do what you feel is right. If you feel like you should invite them or not that’s your decision.

Family drama is all around. Manly the reason i choose to do a destination wedding. So this way i only invited my siblings, mom (dad deceased) and my close friends. Although what I thought would be a wedding of maybe 30 is about 100 but I take it as we are loved and its only positive people coming.

Glad you are sticking up for yourself though its very important.

View Quoted Comment What on earth could have been so offensive in your invitations? The way you spelled bride?🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m so sorry you had to deal with that.

View Quoted Comment My mother's name was not on the invitations. My stepmother's was.
Because my stepmother helped plan and pay, and my mother did not. Because my stepmother was supportive and involved, and my mother was not (by my choice and by her inclination).
Because, then my family decided they didn't have a "connection" to the invitations (my middle name is my mother's maiden name... and only a few of my cousins share it). Because my family regularly blacklists someone and I knew it would be me. My mother is a narcissist and emotionally abusive (bordering on physical when I was a teen), and when my parents divorced, I lived with my dad. My mother has spread lies about me to her family for years, and they have chosen to believe her, because I have taken the high road and not bashed her to them.
The worst part is that my cousin's kid thinks it's her fault... because she moved into college the week after the wedding. I refuse to involve her in the drama, so I have only reassured her that it is not her fault.

View Quoted Comment That’s terrible on so many levels. I’m so sorry you have to deal with her. Hopefully the family will one day see her garbage.