Non-wedding party invited to Bachelorette

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I've attended plenty of bachelorette parties where I wasn't in the wedding party! But since it is an out of town trip, I would probably keep it to just the bridal party.

@AllieCat makes sense! These are friends that love to travel but I wouldn't want it to be too $$ for them. ETA: words

I'm inviting a few girls who aren't in my bridal party. Just make sure they are invited to the wedding (which I'm sure they are) . However, my bachelorette party is local. I would extend the invite if you'd like them there. People know they can decline if it's too much of a hassle.

As long as they get a wedding invite its ok. Also let MOH know ahead of time.

I have been invited to tons of these without being in the wedding. If they are close friends there is no reason why you shouldn't invite them.

They are definitely invited to the wedding! MOH is fine with the idea. I just wanted to see if anyone felt awkward being invited to a bach party without being in the wedding party or drama with large groups on a trip. @Amanda good point, I would definitely emphasize that it's their choice.

I have been to a lot of bachelorette parties with women other than the wedding party. I will have a few good friends at mine that aren't in the wedding.

My whole dance troupe has asked when my bachelorette is... I told them I would keep this posted because one of my guy friends has asked me where I want to go and when.

I had friends who weren't in the bridal party at mine. I had 4 bridesmaids, but I think there were about 14 people at my bachelorette party

As long as they are invited to the wedding - that's totally fine! I've attended plenty of showers and bachelorette parties without being a bridesmaid!

Just discuss with your MOH first. I planned a bachelorette party last year for my friend, and I didn't even think about her inviting friends not in the wedding party... We invited her mom and FSIL. But then a few weeks before she sends me a text with an "just an FYI, I invited blank,blank,and blank, and they all confirmed they are coming." It all turned out fine, but I can't say that I wasn't irritated that she didn't talk to me about it first. I had planned some surprises, had to figure out some different sleeping arrangements in the hotel room I had booked for the night, and had already offered to everyone to pay for brunch. I hadn't budgeted for an extra 3 people, and only had a room with enough sleeping spots for who I had planned for. If you MOH or bridal party are paying for anything for the group, just make sure she is okay with them.

Just mention it to ur friends if they can't come than at least u invited them. I would be pretty butt hurt if I could go and wasn't invited regardless if I was in the party or not. Its always the thought that counts.

Agree to check with MOH.

Since it is out of town- set plans with your bridal party (location and estimated traveling expenses) and ensure they can all attend. Then extend the invitation to the extra girls, advise the date and estimated cost, let them know you would love to have them there but no pressure if they can't for whatever reason.

I have experienced two times invites to out of town bachelorette parties for weddings I was not a BM. It gets expensive and while the trips were fun, I probably would have opted out if I had been given a choice but it was thrust upon me in a group setting and made it very difficult to decline without coming right out and say "I don't want to spend that much money on you".

Only one of my bridesmaids is even coming to my bachelorette party. I've never been to a bachelorette that only had wedding party. Invite all your friends and go have fun!

As long as they are invited to the wedding it's ok. I was at my FSIL's bachelorette party, but I wasn't in her bridal party.

As long as you a) everyone invited to the bachelorette is also invited to the wedding and b) don't expect/require everyone to come and pay for everything, I think it's fine. Some will undoubtedly not come.

Ive been to several where I wasnt in the party. Im talking 20-40 females. I thought that was normal

Thanks everyone. I am going to invite them but I will make it clear that I don't expect them to come if it's a hassle.

Your choice. 9 is not ridiculous but the more people the more complicated it can get