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Non traditional wedding

Brianca, on December 24, 2021 at 2:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Okay so we plan on having an alcohol free wedding, a kid free wedding except for the ones I have in the wedding. How do I put it on the invitations without getting a million questions?

Also after the ceremony when we will be off taking pictures, when “cocktail” hour would typically commence, with no alcohol we planned on having mock tails, and snacks. Will that be enough? What else can we do. My fiancé is worried is people aren’t drinking that no one will be dancing, I wanted to do the shoe game where you sit back to back and the questions would be asked and we answer with the shoes. I’m stressed I know I shouldn’t be because it’s h wedding but, I’m somewhat of a people pleaser. 😅

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Lisa · on December 24, 2021 at 2:58 PM
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For the question about not inviting kids, I would just address the invitation to those you are inviting ("Mr & Mrs Smith" instead of "The Smith Family"). I wouldn't recommend mentioning it anywhere on your invitations otherwise. You could also put a note on your wedding website, with something along the lines of, "We adore everyone's children, however, due to venue capacity, this event will be adults and wedding party only. Thank you for understanding." If someone RSVPs for their children, you could reach out to them directly at that time to explain that you unfortunately are not able to accommodate children.

I think mocktails and snacks would be great for cocktail hour! Though if the wedding reception will be held during a meal time, I would also ensure that a full meal is served in that time. Are you planning on serving a full meal after cocktail hour during the reception? Or would mocktails and snacks be the only food/beverage provided for the entire evening?
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Michelle · on December 24, 2021 at 4:06 PM
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None of those things go on the invitation. The invitation is addressed only to those invited and the reply card will say either “we have reserved _ of _ seats for you” or their names are specifically printed on the card.

You don’t announce alcohol choices on the invitation or the website. Guests find out when they arrive what they are, as with any other party.

Guests who don’t dance will mingle without any issues. Have a good dj on hand. Depending on the crowd, some guests may not dance before your first dance because it is considered impolite in many social circles. Games depend on social circle. Are they common with your friends and relatives? If not, your guests may be confused because they don’t feel games are necessary to keep entertained.

As long as you have something for them to nibble on before dinner, you should be fine. Cheese and crackers are inexpensive and will tide people over but they are not Covid-friendly. Ask your caterer to work within your budget for passed appetizers. Even if you are not serving alcohol, call it a social hour so you don’t confuse guests.

Don’t try to please other people because you will end up with regrets due to not making you and fiancé happy. There is a balance of making yourselves happy and being good hosts.
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