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Carissa Brittney
Super July 2017

Non-traditional reception

Carissa Brittney, on February 22, 2017 at 6:27 PM Posted in Planning 0 18

My fiancée and I have planned the ceremony of our dreams in a beautiful arched rose garden in the town that we live in. We are keeping our wedding very small, 52 people were invited total. As a couple, we didn't want to be as traditional for our reception. We both had the same vision of simply celebrating with those that attended the ceremony over lunch and drinks. Our wedding is at 12:30 and our reception is nearby at 2:00. We are providing our guests with shared plates at each table), an entree for each guest, desert, and then, we are doing five different filled cupcakes. We aren't doing a first dance, or anything that occurs at a traditional reception because frankly, we don't want to. We'd rather celebrate with those we love by eating, laughing, having some drinks, and then inviting everyone to our home in the evening for a bonfire, drinks, small bites, and first dance.

My questions are: has anyone done this? What was the response? Is that enough to eat for lunch reception?

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Latest activity by Nikki, on February 22, 2017 at 8:18 PM
  • Carissa Brittney
    Super July 2017
    Carissa Brittney ·
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    This is our menu.


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  • StephanieNaz
    VIP August 2017
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    So this will be an all day event? ETA: I think the food is enough

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    What type of ceremony are you having, and what is the distance between the ceremony and reception?

    eta: the menu you have looks fantastic. I think it's enough to eat for sure.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
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    I think it's fine. Nothing wrong with a low-key reception after an afternoon wedding.

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  • Natalie
    Super August 2017
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    The menu looks good, I think the amount of food is fine.

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  • FutureMrsLevchuk
    Expert November 2017
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    Depending on your crowd that's an awesome idea. If you have a short ceremony followed by a 90 minute wait, that may be difficult for your guests. I assume you're taking pictures during this time? Will they have a cocktail hour while waiting or something? Good luck, I love the idea of a whole day celebration!

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    What is a shared plate? I don't understand.

    Also, how long is your ceremony and how far from reception venue?

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  • Celia Milton
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    I think it sounds lovely, and I love our smaller weddings, but I think it sounds long. Your wedding ceremony will be done in 40 minutes at the most and if the restaurant is nearby, by 1:30 at the latest that show should be on the road. A simple lunch will be done by 4:00 at the latest, but then what does everyone do until the evening? There are hours in between, and I think it's asking a lot for people to spend an entire day.

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  • MMB
    Master January 2017
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    As a guest, I wouldn't like an hour and a half wait between the ceremony and reception.

    But also...

    COGNAC PUMPKIN CHEESECAKE

    My eyes can't even look at the rest of the menu. Drooling.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    By shared plates, you mean family style, right?

    Your food will be served at approximately 2:00 PM. Are you having the typical five hour reception? In any event, if the reception ends after 6:00 PM and you have a third stage of the reception at your home, I think you'll need to serve more than "small bites" if you expect your guests to hang around. Your guests will be looking for dinner at around 8:00 or 9:00 PM. Even if it's pizza, I think you have to serve something more substantial than light apps if you want people to hang around into the night. Just my opinion.

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  • Carissa Brittney
    Super July 2017
    Carissa Brittney ·
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    No, not a typical five hour reception. The reception or lunch, rather, will only go 2-4. It's really just a nice sit down lunch/drinks with closest family and friends. Most of our guest list is local and live nearby. Our nighttime little celebration is a "come if you'd like/dress casually/bring whoever you want" kind of thing. Nothing formal.

    As far as time in between, the guests can go before 2 for drinks.

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  • Nikki
    Super September 2017
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    Food looks plentiful enough to me. ! I'd also like to know how far the ceremony is from the reception. I'm surprised so many on here find this a long wait. Even if your ceremony is 40 min. I always drag my feet and chit chat a bit so if I was your guest I likely wouldn't be in my car until 1:30? Leaving a half hour to get to the restaurant, park, be seated and order a drink. Not bad at all.

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  • Nikki
    Super September 2017
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    Adding...I can't wait to see your photos!

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  • Carissa Brittney
    Super July 2017
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    Where we are marrying Smiley smile


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  • Carissa Brittney
    Super July 2017
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    Nikki, the ceremony is expected to be around 35 minutes. We are estimating that it will be a 20 minute total commute/parking time because we live in the center of West Hartford. Lots of foodies and a lively walking square so the commotion alone may take extra time.

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
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    That's a gorgeous venue. Since you're providing drinks pre-reception for those who arrive early and your home celebration is more like an after-party than part of the reception, I think your plan works.

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  • Miami2NorthernVA
    Master November 2017
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    We have 25-30 guests. Reception is lunch at a restaurant. We aren't doing any traditional reception events and are serving a 3 course meal where the guests choose what they what they want from a special menu (similar to yours). We don't have a wedding cake either.

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  • Nikki
    Super September 2017
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    Sounds perfect to me Carissa! Seriously beautiful site! And that menu is to die for!

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