Non responsive bridesmaids

Your fiance needs to have a serious talk with his sisters about what is going on. They need to order the dresses or decide not to participate in the wedding.

Your wedding is in 7 months. At this point in the game you probably JUST asked them recently. Cut them some slack they have lives outside of your wedding and may not have the funds or time to order something yet

Umm, your wedding isn't until January, where are you ordering your dresses from? I've had custom made dresses that I haven't had to order until 4 months out.

Give them a drop dead date and let them be adults. If they don't get the dress, they aren't in your wedding.

I would call, not text. Make it more personal. Also, get your fiance involved as this is his family.

How long does it actually take to get the dresses in?

The shop we ordered from said they needed 17 weeks to come in, so I gave them a deadline of 19 weeks out. It also helped that when they ordered them, the store was having a sale.

You have plenty of time.

Stay out of bridal party issues, that's between them.

I think fir the dresses, your FH needs to get involved. Does he see them more regularly where he could talk with them in person? If not, he should call them to find out why they haven't ordered yet and let them know when the shop absolutely needs their orders.

I agree that the shower planning issue your MOH is having with them isn't something either you or FH should get involved with. That's between your MOH and the BMs. They'll either decide to talk with her and help with the shower, or she'll need to accept their silence as them saying they don't want to be involved in hosting the shower.

Have you called them directly? are you sure they are getting the texts?

I've sent out texts to people and found out they never got them due to problems with my service. And I never send time sensitive things to my mom and certain other relatives via text because they dont see them. in many cases they think they are working their texting program properly and they are not.

Only thing I can suggest to try and make sure people get information is speak to them directly then send the info as a reminder to every email, text number or regular postal address you have for them.

I'm sorry this is happening, communications can be frustrating!

I would get their phone numbers and give them a call directly. As for the planning of the shower -- BM's aren't required to help with that kind of stuff. It's up to them to volunteer if they would like to help but I wouldn't get upset with them if they're not interested, especially if they live far away.

I had a similar issue FH's sister was dragging her feet on ordering her dress and it was on limited availability. I would have him talk to them about it b/c they are his sisters. They probably feel weird talking to you about it.

I ordered my BM dresses in December and they were in by February or March. These were Mori Lee designer dresses from a bridal boutique. You have time. You have 7 months.

On the positive side, you still have time for dresses. I'm sure the dress shop is pushing you to place an order, but I think most BM dresses come in under 3 months.

When you do need to order them - communicate clearly with everyone, verbally and via text or email.

"Hi everyone! Reminder that the deadline to order dresses is X date. They must be placed on or before that date for guaranteed arrival for the wedding, leaving time for alterations. Also - they must all be ordered together to ensure they are all cut from the same fabric lot - guaranteeing same shade/color."

@Beatrice - our dress shop is giving me the deadline, which was June 1 - due to the designer being behind. It is a 5+ month wait for bridesmaid dresses so June 1 is for a November arrival. I went with them 1st week of April to pick out their dresses so they have had 2 months to order. I understand people have other things going on which is why I gave them 2 months, but now my dress shop is getting worried and told me they need to order.

I'll see if my fiance can mention something...that may be the route to go...but they did have an order date of June 1 which was given to them back in early April so I think that was enough time...I know other places/designers may have a shorter time frame but that isn't what I'm hearing from my dress shop.

Have your FH call them. I have been the one planning and organizing everything, but if something was going on with someone on his side of the guest list/bridal party, he would take initiative to reach out if I needed him to. Yours won't mind either. Also, I know how much less stressful texting is, but you really should call if they aren't responding to texts.

The dress is their only responsibility and the MOH wants their help with the shower so I think the bride is following ettiquette here and is correct to be worried.

My dresses were the same, everyone's order had to be placed to ensure fabric was from the same bolt so the color would match perfectly. Orders were made to size. Because of this all orders had to be placed at once and I was told 4-6 months to get them in plus wanted to give time for BMs to have them to ensure they fit properly

I would have your FH talk to his sisters or get his mom to talk to his sisters but it should come from him.

@Elizabeth - thanks! it is a little annoying because I text them about other things also and they respond to all the other things but never answer about the dresses. My fiance is seeing them tonight so I'll see if he can bring it up, if not I'll try the call =)

I think you still have plenty of time. If, say, 4 months before your wedding they haven't done anything, then talk to them. Two of my BMs also ignored my emails (3 emails in 4 months), and got their dresses a month before my wedding. Of course, there was no time to order anything in, so they were stuck with dresses they hated. Feel free to share my horror story, lol.

They also ignored the BMs that got in touch with them to plan when to fly in here and organize stuff. I told the worried BMs to just plan for themselves without the other 2. Honestly, I thought they weren't even going to show up. They bought their tickets a week before the wedding.

@NowASeptMrs thanks for the support! I think its a similar situation since they are made to order and I was told 5 months at least plus 1-2 months for alterations. Hopefully my fiance can get them to act soon =)

Call them and if that doesn't work, have FH talk to them. Texts are easy to ignore or say "oh I saw it, but forgot to respond"...

My MOH & I are going thru the same situation w/ my FH sis & mom their not responding to texts, calls, emails or FB messenger but their always on FB updating statuses & posting pix of'em hanging out w/ friends, FH made 1 final attempt to reach out & said if we don't hear from them then we know where they stand, so we made the decision to take them out of the BP & this was about a month ago & still haven't heard from them. & we are much more happier that we X out the bs & drama .

Unless the designer is one person I a basement I don't see why the designer would be behind unless the people they employ are behind. Most big designers in stores have factories...