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Non responsive bridesmaid

Shannon, on March 14, 2020 at 10:09 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I have a Facebook group message with my bridesmaids and I sent a message the first week of March about them needing to order their dresses off Azazie. Two of them ordered right away, the other was going to wait, and the fourth heard nothing. I sent a new link to the Azazie showroom to bridesmaid 3 and 4. Number 3 ended up getting hers ordered this week. I sent a text reminder to bridesmaid 4 on Wednesday. After hearing nothing I called her yesterday afternoon and left a voicemail asking her if she thinks she could order her dress this weekend and also to get her robe size as bridesmaid 3 is ordering robes for everyone. Crickets. I then texted her last night and asked if she could at least confirm she's getting my messages. I've seen her active on Facebook after my text on Wednesday and last night after my voicemail. I get that life happens and people can get busy and forgetful but I'm incredibly frustrated by her lack of response. I almost feel like I'm being ghosted lol. If I hear nothing today is it over the top if I message her husband tomorrow night and ask him to see if she can respond to me or see what the deal is?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on March 16, 2020 at 12:24 PM

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Caytlyn · on March 14, 2020 at 10:12 AM
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I don’t think it’s necessary to contact her husband. No response is a response.
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Don · on March 14, 2020 at 10:18 AM
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Hi Shannon,
I would contact him, it seems like she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid, you have to know for sure, I have one who was like that, she just didn't like the dress I picked so I ended up paying for it, I thought I was a dress that would be worn again, not a one and done!
My bridesmaids dress.
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Melle · on March 14, 2020 at 12:40 PM
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That’s super frustrating, gah. I don’t think it hurts to ask her husband if she’s doing ok ya know just to check in on her overall and not so much about the dress, if you know she’s just not responsive to YOU then I think it’s ok to assume she’s not in it
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Michelle · on March 14, 2020 at 1:03 PM
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Have you tried calling her? Maybe something is going on in her life and she may need some time to deal with that? Can you order the dress and have her pay you back?
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Kaysey · on March 14, 2020 at 1:24 PM
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If it were me, I'd continue planning the wedding and plan it without her as a member of the wedding party. I understand things come up and someone may not see or even use Facebook messenger, but when you've also texted and called this bridesmaid and you still haven't gotten a response, it seems she's doing this purposely. I'd say text her and ask her if she even wants to be in the wedding, because to me she isn't acting like it.
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Alexis · on March 14, 2020 at 2:03 PM
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I think it depends on your relationship with her. I’m close with all of mine, so I wouldn’t hesitate to text their partner if they became unresponsive, because something would have to be wrong. In my mind, there has to be a reason for her lack of response... maybe financial issues so she can’t afford to pay for the dress but doesn’t want to say that.
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Shannon · on March 14, 2020 at 4:15 PM
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Thanks for the responses guys. She finally messaged me back. I guess I was overreacting a bit but it was frustrating feeling like I was constantly reminding her and getting nothing back.
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MrsD · on March 16, 2020 at 12:24 PM
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It seems super weird to reach out to her husband. Maybe she is busy with other stuff going on. I'd just give her a little while. If she has a dress for the wedding, great. If not, she isn't a bridesmaid.
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