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Nichole
Devoted August 2019

Non religious unity ideas

Nichole, on March 14, 2019 at 1:22 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 30
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Looking for some sort of unity thing to do. Something that not everyone else is doing. After looking On Pinterest here is what I have found.

Hand fasting/ binding of hands
trying the knot
time capsule/ memory box
love letter box (open after first fight)
anniversary box, letters of why you got married and wine and then replace with new letter and new wine every year.
A cord of three strands (a braid)

any my other ideas other than the candle, sand, and planting a tree.

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  • Myranda
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Myranda ·
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    Lighting of candles
    a few friends potted a tree
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated July 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    My sister did something with mixing a red and a white wine together. If I remember correctly, they each had a glass and poured them both into a larger glass. Their officiant said something about each of them retaining their former attributes but mixing to form a new, unique combination that can't be separated back out into it's parts.
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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes May 2019
    Sarah ·
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    My hubs2b and I are doing hand tying!!!
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  • Tara
    Dedicated September 2019
    Tara ·
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    I honestly don’t think we’re doing anything. My godmother is marrying us so it’s going to be a very personal wedding and plus it’s less stuff you have to bring and buy!
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  • K
    Dedicated October 2019
    Krystle ·
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    Jumping the broom.... you can Google image search wedding broom, it signifies sweeping away the past and stepping into a new future together. Sort of a clean slate.
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    We are non religious and are doing a sand ceremony.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    We plan to tie a fisherman's knot. We both love fishing (it's what brought us together), and the knot is said to be unbreakable.

    The Fisherman's Knot Unity CeremonyNon religious unity ideas 1The Fisherman's Knot Rope (that we will be using)Non religious unity ideas 2


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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Skipped it. The ceremony is a unity, so we just left it at that.

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  • Gonnabeaburch
    Super July 2019
    Gonnabeaburch ·
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    We are potting a plant. I think we are going to do basil because we don't want to plant a tree at our rental home. We will get 5 basil plants (we have 3 kids) and pot them all together into one large pot.
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  • Tina
    VIP March 2020
    Tina ·
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    The cord of three strands does go back to the Bible so is religious. 🙂 We too are looking at noon religious unity ideas....I would love to do the glass one but so expensive so probably do a sand ceremony. Either in an hourglass or a glass block.
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  • Malki
    Devoted November 2019
    Malki ·
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    We are doing a sand ceremony bc once it’s mixed the sand can never really be completely separated, just like FH and I can never really be completely separate again. After everything we’ve been through together we will always be a part of each other.
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  • A
    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·
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    My friends did a knot tying and they are to add a knot every year for each anniversary so I don't want to do this. I like the idea of the the letters and wine. That seems different. None of our friends have done the braid so I kind of am leaning towards that one since it can be displayed in our house.

    I don't like the candle, sand, or tree. For me, the tree has to be a really slow grower and able to be in a pot for a long time haha, because eventually we would move to a bigger house so I wouldn't want to plant it in the ground on our property after the wedding.

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  • A
    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·
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    I really enjoy this idea and the meaning behind it and mostly because of the knot then looks like an infinity sign. Really cool!

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  • Future Mrs. Polar Bear
    Super April 2019
    Future Mrs. Polar Bear ·
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    I don't have any other ideas, but we are adding a handfasting to our ceremony. I'm Pagan so it's important to me that we incorporate that somehow into our wedding, and my FH agreed to it.

    It's really about not just getting married but knowing that the two of you are tied together, forever. The binding together and union of our hopes and desires.

    More information can be found here: About Handfasting and Other Unity Ideas

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  • Kaleigh
    Super December 2019
    Kaleigh ·
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    So, ours isn’t really religious, but we love it.

    Blessing of the rings:

    basically you pass the wedding rings from person to person in the crowd and they silently place a blessing or prayer on the rings. By the time they get back to you, the idea is that they are warm and filled with love for you by all the people there. FH fell in love with it when we were looking for ideas, so a ring blessing is what we’ll do!
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  • Christine
    Beginner March 2019
    Christine ·
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    We are doing a non religous sand unity, but into an hour Glass. We both are into unique time pieces so that fits us very well. You can do a traditional unity style but put a twist on it that makes it unique to you two.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    We aren't doing anything other than a ring exchange and vows. For us, all of the options were a bit cheesy and didn't feel natural to us. We tried something up with something that did make sense to use, but ultimately decided there really isn't a necessity for a unity ceremony.

    But maybe you can come up with your own unique idea? Something that truly represents the two of you.

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  • Danielle
    Beginner October 2020
    Danielle ·
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    We are planning on doing a beer unity ceremony!! We’re both big craft beer lovers and then we get to have a drink at ceremony. 😆
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  • ChefKait
    Devoted December 2019
    ChefKait ·
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    I am doing a ring warming ceremony- the rings get passed around (tied securely to a pillow/in a tulle bag for safety) among our family for them to imbue the rings with positive thoughts before we exchange them.

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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    This is what we did. You can buy a set on Etsy that has 2 small carafes and one large cup. One had white (prosecco), one had red (sangria). We clinked them together and then we mixed them in the big cup and each took a drink. We found the wording on Officiant Eric .

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