Non-religious Ceremony

Look for a wedding celebrant or officiant, not a pastor to marry you. We're also wanting a non-religious ceremony, and haven't had a problem finding people willing to do secular ceremonies. They'll just talk more about our relationship and less about God. The officiant we ended up choosing had us fill our a questionnaire that included checkboxes with words we were comfortable with her using, including God, Lord, spirit, etc. We just said we didn't want anything like that mentioned. Good luck!

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This is really useful, thank you!!

We used an officiant. We told him we didn't want any prayers or religious readings. I'm not sure if anyone even noticed. I never heard anything about it lol. He welcomed everyone, talked about love and marriage, read a non religious passage we chose and then we said the traditional vows. Actually, a lot of people said how much they enjoyed him.🤷‍♀️

My best friend's husband is getting ordained through ULC and there is a wedding script generator on their website. You can choose an agnostic/atheist denomination. https://www.ulc.org/wedding-script

We're going to have someone be ordained for the day. You can do a JP or officiant.

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This actually depends on the states. Some have an officiant for a day program (although in some states, the officiant must be a resident of the state). Some don't, but allow for online ordinations. Some don't allow for either, but allow for self-uniting marriages (where the couple can get married just by getting a marriage license and then signing forms that agree to be married, so they don't need to worry about the qualifications of an officiant). Some don't have any choices at all, other than a judge or religious officiant. (But even in those states, you can often find someone ordained as a minister who is willing to conduct a nonreligious ceremony.) You have to make sure you follow the laws of the state where the wedding is being held.

Ok so we are kind of in the same boat where my fiancé is slightly religious and I’m not a believer in God so we’re having a family member marry us and he’s going to do like a bible reading (that my fiancé will pick out lol) and we’re doing a blessing instead of a prayer. That’s about it.

As PP have said find an officiant that is not connected with a specific religion or someone that is willing to do a non traditional/religious ceremony. When we found our officiant (retired pastor) we were very frank with him saying we are not super religious therefore we don't want to have a very religious ceremony. Luckily, he was very respectful and understood our wishes and together we wrote a ceremony that we both love!

Make sure you make your wishes very clear from the beginning with whoever you choose!

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I've been going crazy trying to figure out what we want to be said at the ceremony...this was super helpful, thanks!