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Savvy September 2019

‘Non’ guest drama

Steph, on August 11, 2019 at 3:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Anyone else having acquaintances who are not invited to your wedding starting drama a month out from the wedding because they just realized they aren’t invited?

I have one person who I was very close with, to the point I was her maid of honor 11 years ago, unfriending me on Facebook and now calling and texting me insinuating I’m a bad person for not inviting her and/or for not telling her she’s not invited to my 60 person wedding. Keep in mind I have not seen her in over 3 years and the last time we spoke on the phone was probably just as long ago. Our communication consists of a happy holiday/ birthday text (if that) and maybe a like on Facebook. She asked about my wedding planning once, 1.5 years ago when I was on vacation about to run 48.6 miles over the span of 4 days. She brought up that I didn’t tell her anything about my wedding during this contact meanwhile my wedding wasn’t planned. My FH has a friend playing similar games, but he at least has the decency to talk behind our backs about how ‘enraged’ he is. Lol

why does everyone else think your wedding is about them? Just seems like one less thing I needed to think about so close to the wedding. Sorry for the vent session.

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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on August 11, 2019 at 5:37 PM

Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on August 11, 2019 at 3:47 PM
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I had a friend mad at me because she was a bridesmaid and not maid of honor. Now she’s using excuses to not even come. I have a few coworkers and a friend who I am not inviting for various reasons and I am afraid there will be some hurt feelings, but I’m trying to stand my ground. Hopefully they’ll be fine.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 11, 2019 at 4:15 PM
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Whoa, this person sounds really hateful. It doesn't seem like the two of you were that close recently. I think she's really overreacting and expecting too much. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!
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Beginner October 2019
Ashley · on August 11, 2019 at 5:14 PM
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I have had similar things going on with people I work with. My FH and I work for the same company so naturally we know all of each other’s co workers, I’m very friendly which has never been a bad thing until now, when people that I barely know or even really like think that they are invited to our small wedding. I’ve had some of them tell me that if they don’t get an invite that they’ll just show up. The only advice that I can give you is to do what I’m doing and let them get mad. It’s your day, not hers and unless she’s footing the bill then any argument she has is invalid
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Devoted August 2019
Tilar Fifield · on August 11, 2019 at 5:23 PM
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I was just talking about this with my FH today! We were at a little kid’s birthday party yesterday and a couple people asked when the wedding was. When we told them it was next Saturday they were super surprised, I’m assuming because they never got an invite. These people are not close family by any means, barely family at all. It really bothers me when people act petty about not being invited to weddings. Unless it’s like some deep family issues. They never know what the situation is... it would be a financial issues or a capacity issue. For most people it’s just not possible to invite every single person you know to their wedding. It’s not always personal and people tend to make it that way. So irritating!
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Florida Marlins · on August 11, 2019 at 5:37 PM
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I am sorry you are going through this and it just affirms what I have always known: People really need to make stuff all about them!!! Weddings bring it out of people, man!!!! Just ignore her, she is looking for a fight or a reaction and you don't need this in your life, ever.
Best wishes!
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