Non-gendered Bridal Party Name

I've seen people use "bride tribe".

I think in your best friends case that "Person of Honor" would be a good way to make them feel more comfortable while still honoring the tradition of MOH.

I didn’t personally use it, but could you use “bridespeople”?

The term bridal party refers to you and doesn’t matter whether the attendants are male or female. However, if you still don’t like the term, you can just use the umbrella term “wedding party” to cover you and your FS’s attendants.

As for a replacement word for bridesmaid, I’ve heard bridesman, man of honor, person of honor, or even just bridal attendent.

I decinitely think you should make your friend feel ocmpfrtable, but I also don’t like those cutesy terms like bride squad that no one knows what exactly you mean.

We called our two groups our "wedding party" and when talking about them individually we called them "VIPs"

One of my VIPs is genderqueer so we didn't want to use any gendered terms to refer to anyone in our wedding.

We went to a wedding last year where one of the groom's siblings, who's a transgender woman, was in the wedding party. They just collectively referred to the whole wedding party as "party people", and then had each person's name listed under "his side" or "her side" in the program.

Party People

His Side Her Side

name 1 name 1

name 2 name 2

I love seeing conversations about inclusive language on WW! we referred to ours as our Mates of Honour--we had a mix of genders on both sides of our WP too. we also called them our VIPs and our Witnesses or just the Wedding Party. we tried to just keep gender out of it as much as possible so we just had "Jeff's side" and "Cait's side" rather than "bride" and "groom."

i've seen the word "tribe" come up in this thread and others but would caution folks against using it--it has cultural significance for indigenous/aboriginal people and using it is considered appropriative.

Personally if it were me I'd match it to the theme, if you're trying to keep it classy attendant is more formal, if not, vips is cool or something directly tied to the theme, ex. firefly themed wedding, bridal party is the crew

Mine is mixed gender as well, and I just use bridespeople. I like it a lot more than maid anyways :-)

Brides people, bridal gang (thats what i call mine), bride tribe. I really like "person of honor"

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VIPs is a great idea! I don't like the silly names because I don't want to cheapen the event.

View Quoted Comment I like this! Fun without being cheesy

Honor Attendant -- maybe "Bride's Honor Attendants" and "Groom's Honor Attendants" if you are listing them.

We're doing brides people, sometimes I say brides folk.

Just like, a side note trans women are women and trans men are men, so you can just use bridesmaids if you have a trans woman in your brides maid party.

I was apart of two mixed gender bridal parties. They couples just called us bridal party members. The members who actually signed the certificate were "honored witnesses"

Those were much more formal weddings so I think the wording reflected that.

View Quoted Comment Caitlin, I applaud you for being culturally sensitive. 👏🏻 As a Native American I greatly appreciate that. However, tribe isn’t appropriation because it’s actually derived from the Roman word “tribus” used historically to distinguish the Latin, Sabine, and Etruscan peoples. Many people associate the word tribe with Native Americans because that is how we hear it used most often, but it is used in other contexts as well like the Bible.

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thanks for that context Clarisse! it's interesting and it'll definitely help me in future conversations

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Mates of Honor is pretty freaking cute!

“I do crew”. “Majesty of honor”

Recently went to a lesbian wedding (let's call them Cara & Lisa) with a mix of genders on both sides. They called them Cara's Attendants and Lisa's Attendants on the program.