Non-engaged friend wants to try on wedding dresses at my appointment- is this rude?

Very rude! Don't let her steal your special time!

Go without her. I agree that the bridal store consultant will be really annoyed that someone who isn't even engaged is wasting her time and wearing out the dresses playing dress up.

So if she made her OWN appointment to try on dresses and invited you to come along with her, would you go? Or would you still freak out that she was trying to steal your spotlight? There is no rule that you have to be engaged to try on dresses. It sounds like she was just wanting to have some fun and maybe didn't totally think through the logistics and time limitations of an appointment.

Constant use of the term "it's MY day" is not going to go over well during your engagement. It's a phrase often used by spoiled beidezillas. You may want to learn to relax.

Yes, RUDE.

Ugh, sounds kind of like in my shoes. FH's sister is jealous of our relationship. She tells us that every time we see her. She picks guys who goes to prison and do horrible drugs, of course you won't be in a good relationship. So her boyfriend who is in prison for the second time proposed to her in prison and she said yes shortly after we got engaged. Pretty sure it's just because she couldn't handle us getting all of the attention, but who knows. I booked my dress appointment and didn't tell her yet, I was going to tell her like the day before and hoped she had plans. Well she contacted me the week before and said she wanted to go the same day to the same place without her knowing I already booked an appointment. I told her I already have mine booked there for that day. She asked to "share" appointments because it was going to be fun. HELL NO!! Then she said she will make hers right after mine and go to mine and everyone who went with me has to stay for hers. HELL NO!! Turns out there was a cancellation and we ended up trying on dresses the same time. Everyone, including FMIL was in front of my door and not paying attention to her since no one is okay with her engagement and has told her that. She started crying. Did I care? Nope, it was MY day!

It's super rude. Not even for you so much as now the salon has a second consultant who's time is going to be wasted by your friend who is just there to play dress-up with no serious intention of buying anything, and a lot of bridal consultants do work primarily on commission; that's really disrespectful to the sales consultant and the salon. I'd really reconsider bringing your friend, especially if that's a bridal salon you'd like to do business with in the future.

You said you were just trying them on it's not your appointment to find the dress, she just wants to have fun if it was the appointment and your idea yea that would be weird but it seems like she just wants to play dress up what's wrog with that?

I'm confused why you're so upset about this...

I personally don't think it's rude. It depends on what kind of "appointment" this is as well, if there's room and not others why not. You can offer her to help you get in them, I know a lot of people have allowed my sister to help me get in them. It's just one trip, go somewhere random with her and make it a girls day. If one of my good friends asked this I would think it was fun. Remember as many people have said, nobody cares as much about your wedding day than you do, so remember that, if she is a good friend she's just trying to have fun! Then again, I am pretty laid back, so if this isn't your personality type or your friendship. But I don't see a friend asking this is rude, if you do just let her know you're on a time limit

I feel bad for the salon. Many of the consultants are paid on commission and that would be a loss of someone's time/pay. Also it doesn't sound like she will be a supportive friend or a positive influence. Now I'm not saying that because "it's your day" because the day you try on wedding dresses isn't your day, you get like an hour to play dress up. I'm saying this because she sounds so negative talking about the experience that can be fun.

Also for what it's worth, I found my dress at the first shop and tried on 20 dresses in about an hour and a half. The consultants are quick because a) it's there job and b) time is money. They have other appointments and they need to stay on time.

In a word? Yes.

I think she just wants to play dress-up, but she shouldn't be using your appointment time for it. If you guys have time afterwards, then maybe...but not during the time that was allocated to you.

Is you friend in your wedding party? If not, then maybe you can go dress shopping with your mom & bridal party.....

Again, thanks for the feedback! You're right, I think she does just want to play dress up. Even if I don't intend on buying a dress in the first store I visit, without any of my family there, at least I'm actually engaged and planning on getting married!

Heck yah that's rude. You are trying on dresses cuz its your apt for crying out loud. They will get there day to in the future.

Hmm.... That explains why a lady walked up to my family while I was in a dress in front of them and she goes "Aww... is she getting married?" I was so confused. I didn't think people tried on dresses before getting engaged. Though, my twin would go pick out engagement rings without even having a boyfriend, and one time even put a down payment on one...

Yeah, she's a little bananas. There is no need for her to try one on.

There is no reason for her to try on wedding gowns if she isn't even engaged! Yes that is rude and a little weird...why would she even want to try on wedding dresses when the only wedding involved is yours?

One of my bridesmaids recently got engaged and the two of us made appointments to go together to try on wedding dresses but we both have a wedding we are planning! Also, I already bought mine so she suggested that it would be fun together. Tell your friend she can try on bridesmaid dresses but that it's weird for her to try on wedding dresses.

I have a little story for you. A friend of mine recently got married. At her first bridal appointment one of the bridesmaids came with us. This girl insisted on trying on dresses as well. She made that appointment all about her. It didn't stop there, she needed to be the center of attention at all times. If she wasn't, she would start arguments or pout until she got her own way. She was finally asked to step down (yes it ended the friendship but it was a friendship that was only continuing because this girl was dating my friend's future brother in law). Long story short, this girl sounds like trouble. I wouldn't include her as she sounds like she needs attention and doesn't care who she gets it from.

In my opinion, if she gets bored, she can go look for other dresses for YOU to try on. Or have her look for bridesmaids dresses. Although with her attitude, I'm not sure you would want her as a BM.

I'd go alone then...that is very rude and a little crazy

If she is already calling you a bridezilla I would say no thanks and go with someone else. She is being rediculous! You are the bride! The future brides try on wedding dresses.. Also she will be wasting the stores time since she is not even looking.. I would tell her she can try on bridesmiad dresses but if she insists on wedding dresses I would just not go.