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Non-covid postponement

Cheryl, on September 12, 2020 at 9:00 AM Posted in Planning 0 13
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I know Covid has caused a giant shakeup in wedding planning and has caused many couples to have to reschedule their original date. Has anyone had to change their plans for reasons NOT Covid related? We find ourselves having to reschedule our original 6-19-21 date due to the fact that my son, who is in the Navy, will not be able to attend our original date. He is my only child, we are VERY close and he will have a big part in my wedding (groomsman, escorting me down the aisle and also performing our first dance song), this is my first and ONLY marriage and I simply cannot imagine getting married without him there. I mean, it's good that we know early enough to change it, but man....the rescheduling process has been extremely stressful. I would love to only have to move it a few weeks and have it in July, but there are some factors that make that still a slightly iffy proposition, so it looks like we may have to go with November 2021. Of course, in the NE part of the country, weather-wise, it could still be iffy. The pros to November though, mean most, if not all, of our vendors will be available AND we have more time to pay things off before the actual day, with the added plus that many of the Covid restrictions have time to be resolved/revised. I am typically a very low-key, go-with-the-flow kind of girl and don't often get stressed out about things, but MAN has this whole thing been stressful. Has anyone else been dealing with non-pandemic related rescheduling?

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Latest activity by Cheryl, on September 16, 2020 at 1:02 PM
  • J
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    Not this marriage, but previously, 2 brothers were in a bad accident weeks before my first wedding, were going to need repeat surgeries to pin bones and do burn grafts. And me taking off mid semester, putting off graduating, which should have been 2 weeks before the wedding. Undoubtedly a PITA, and we could not do the same Venue, though they did refind every penny, could have kept half, when the got someone for the date 2 days after we freed it up. So stress we t up, all that money lost, and down, they refunded, and up, moving home near the end of a semester trashed 2 long term internships and projects, and better when they agreed to let me finish over the summer a few hours a day, and bad when FI had to go cross country without me for 4 months. I was feeling a mess. And helpful FI who had made fully half or plans and vendor thongs, ended up missing the whole reschedule. And I had to start dealing with FMIL about new plans, and she was a nasty piece of work on a good day.
    Very much an emotional roller coaster. Saved only by the fact that I was quite sure I wanted the delay, a certainty, better than Covid delays where people do not know if they are rescheduling to a better time, or a worse one. And people were very nice. Though it made more sense to marry near his family and college , I was happy we decided on the group of small towns I came from. People were nice about every change. What they could not do on a new date, venue and photos, the first vendor found me one that was a great replacement. Old favors and good natured filling in when I worked in the area, was paid back by people going out of their way to get me things on short order. That feels good, when others are pulling for you. You have my sympathy, and Good luck!
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  • Hermione
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    Hermione ·
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    Lots of people... Some reschedule up because a loved one has a terminal illness. Some reschedule because a family member is pregnant and would not be able to attend. Or they could of picked a date and then found out nobody was able to attend.



    I don't recommend it if you can avoid it because of the reasons you mentioned (stress and logistics hell). That and the navy does what it wants with no consideration for brides. The navy could surprise your son with orders or not approve his leave... But that is life.
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    I have not had to deal with a non-covid postponement, but I do live in the northeast! November isn't usually what I think of as being a good weather month, but it actually kind of is. You don't have to worry about rain from hurricanes, but it's also too early for major snowstorms!
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Yes, I had to, due to job conflictions.
    Where is your son stationed? Did you ever consider eloping in the area where your son lives and having him and your future spouse's kids (if he/she has any) as the only guests? Or having a mini ceremony where your son lives? My parents were in the Navy for 20 years and my sister did 5 years. Plans and apprived vacation can change at anytime.
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  • Cheryl
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    Unfortunately, the reschedule could NOT be avoided. There is simply NO WAY I could get married without my son being there. He is my only child and we are extremely close. I have never been married and never thought I would be, and here I am. My son also has a big part in my wedding so, no, doing it without him is simply NOT an option. Luckily, he was able to check the schedule for next year and he is scheduled for short duty all of November so we moved our date to then. I am aware there could be a change, but it is unlikely and even if there is an underway that pops up, he is pretty confident he'd still be able to get leave to attend my wedding. So, there's that.....and crossed fingers.

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  • Cheryl
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    Yeah, we've had some pretty mild falls and winters in the NE the past few years, but I was just more concerned about the unpredictability of it all. I mean, in June, the biggest problem is rain. In November, it could be 60 degrees that day or it could be 30 degrees. It could be sunny, or it could rain. Or hell, it could be all in the same damn day. LOL. You just really never know what you're going to get on any given November day. I was also concerned about the weather in upstate NY because my grandson, who we want to be ring bearer, lives there and they can get some REALLY crazy weather. But it is what it is, and we'll just have to deal with whatever comes, at this point.

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  • Cheryl
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    My son is in FL, but having the wedding there isn't really a viable option because then there would be more people having to go THERE than people coming HERE. My mom, my BFF (who is also my MOH, and my FH's children) would all have to travel to FL rather than my son and DIL coming here. That's a much bigger expense added to the budget - for us, as well as the others. Besides, as long as he's not scheduled to be underway, his getting here isn't a problem, so there's really no need to move things there.

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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Okay you got your point accross with all the caps. Lol. Best wishes to you.
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  • Cheryl
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    Well...not "all caps". But yes, there were some for emphasis. Thanks though. We got things all worked out.

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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Cool! BEST WISHES TO YOU AND YOURS.
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  • Super August 2020
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    Some version of that is kind of true most of the year. We got married, outside, in August and had to be prepared for 60-95 degree weather and the possibility of rain, strong winds, or suffocating humidity. Fortunately, that week's hurricane moved through faster than expected and it was sunny and beautiful. Hopefully the weather will be just as cooperative for your wedding!
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  • Cheryl
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    I've come to terms with it. LOL. I mean, it's not like we were planning an outdoor wedding or reception. I was more concerned with the weather being difficult as far as pictures are concerned and also the weather in upstate NY where my grandson lives. It can be vastly different than here and don't want it to be a problem with getting him here. Whatever the case is, we'll deal with it, I guess. Thanks!

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