Non-bridesmaids wearing bridesmaid dresses?

I'm having one of my friends from high school be a "personal attendant" and she's wearing a BM dress. She offered to help with the wedding but I already had my BP set so this seemed appropriate.

I don't know, it sounds a little weird to me. The same color is one thing but to wear the actual BM dress, just odd.

You're right it's not a big deal and if they want to coordinate with the BM and you're fine with it, all the power to them. It won't confuse anyone. Don't give them a special title, though. I'd suggest having them as groom's ladies on your FH side, but you mentioned not wanting a big BP.

No. And no to the personal attendant thing too. FFS, just let these people be guests.

They're guests, and they're guests who are wearing dresses that match the color of your bridal party. That's fine, but whatever you do, please, please, please, don't embrace that idiotic notion being floated on classless blogs celebrating "honorary bridesmaids". They're the women who didn't make the cut, but the bride wants to throw them a bone by letting them wear the right color at the wedding while asking them to do wedding work prior to the wedding (and asking them to cater to the bride's needs on her wedding day). They usually get a mention in the program under the heading of "Honorary Bridesmaids". It's a stupid and insulting idea, and I hope it dies a quick death.

Personal attendant....

I'd say, let them wear what they want! You don't have to give them a special title or anything. I think it's sweet that they want to wear something similar to the BMs - like they want to match because they care about looking good in your wedding photos and that's great! Don't worry about your guests being confused, most of them won't even bat an eye unless they're wearing exactly the same dress as your BMs (and some may not even notice then).

If they asked you and want to wear the same color as your bridesmaids then I'd say sure! But definitely don't make it obligatory!

Your FSIL can wear what they choose, as adults. Please don't ask them to though.

No to personal attendant. When I hear that I think of like a personal caregiver/nurse.

If they want to wear the same dress that's fine. I think it will look nice to have his sisters looking like the bridesmaids. Yes it might confuse guests, but having family confused with the wedding party is ok in my opinion and not a big deal.

Don't give out any sort of title though. That is not needed.

I was iffy on the title anyway, so I won't do that. But they had asked to wear the dress, and I don't mind. They all wanted to be bridesmaids but to have a small wedding with half the guests up at the front in the BP would be silly, so I thought when they asked if they could wear the dresses that would be a fine compromise. I don't think all of them want to wear the dress, and that's fine, because it's totally up to them. Like I said in the original post, one of his sisters asked if she could and is absolutely up to the rest of them if they want to do that or not.

If they want to match the bridal party then find but you don't need to create a role for them.

I have to say, at first when I saw these comments that it is wrong to have a PA, I was a bit taken aback. It's a title I had seen at a few of the weddings I've attended in the past few years, and one my mom asked if I would have. I would never have asked someone who hadn't already offered to help, and I know this friend is someone who loves to do the little behind the scenes detailed involved in events. That being said, I appreciate that you've all pointed out that it seems like she just didn't make the cut to be a BM, and I'm taking advantage of the kindness of one my guests. I will likely have her stand with me too, since I thought a PA would do that anyway. I realize I should have either asked her to be a BM or nothing, and either way should not assign any tasks to her. WeddingWire can be a very blunt way to learn about our wedding faux pas, but I'm grateful to learn these things before the wedding day.

@Maggy so you're not making her a personal attendant anymore right? A personal attendant is someone you hire, not a good friend that you take advantage of. It's like this, she's good enough to see you in your private moments taking a shit with your panties down your legs, but not good enough to stand by your side. I SMH at this every time someone makes a friend a personal attendant.

No, she won't be a PA. I was never going to have her do anything extreme, just helping me put table numbers out, put the card basket out, etc. Nothing I wouldn't also be doing. She offered to help, and these are things I will need help with. I'll ask her to stand up with me if she's comfortable, so she will be a BM.

I agree that if they ask and they want to no problem but I would stay clear of making them honorary BM