I could really use some outside perspective on this!
Some background: My friend is having a bachelorette weekend in Vegas this summer and invited me to go. I’m not a bridesmaid but I’m excited to be a part of this. 3 of us out of 10 are not in the bridal party so I’m not alone.
The bride wanted a location away from our hometown (Midwest) and we all brainstormed options. We were asked to cover the cost of the bride’s flight and hotel split evenly among the 10. I think the bride generally pays for this for destination parties but I was happy to chip in.
For the hotels, we also discussed options and pricing and all came to a decision. The total including my own expenses and bride’s portion is around 1k.
Now to the issue at hand: the bridesmaids have been coordinating actives, decor, and swag. I’m happy to pay for all group activities I’ll be partaking in and my portion of the bride’s meal, drinks etc. But I haven’t had a role in deciding on the rest of the supplies. A few of the girls made purchases without discussing budget like we did previously. I’m now being asked to split these costs which total to several hundred (around 100 each.
Am I wrong in feeling like I shouldn’t pay these costs? I’ve always heard that the decor/party gifts are the MOH/bridal party’s responsibly. I am again happy to pitch in for any personal items like shot glasses and shirts that I would be keeping but really am not sure about the the rest, esp since cost was not discussed and I didn’t have input. Any insights would be appreciated!