Nobody to ask to be my bridesmaid... :(

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Edit: I'm a jerk and totally read that wrong. Need more coffee...

Does he need to have groomsmen? Skipping the bridal party means saving money and avoiding drama. And, even if he wants three, there's nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party (we have more groomsmen than bridesmaids too).

You don't have to have friends in your new area, do you have any friends from where you used to live?

If you feel awkward asking, then you definitely shouldn't ask. And do you have friends from your old area?

What ChristineKyle said! I had a decently long engagement so I understand that hearing "You have plenty of time" is one of the most annoying things ever, but in this case, truly, you do have some time to build rapport with these girls. Who knows what could happen in several months? You don't have to set your bridal party this far out.

I started work at a new office in January of this year and worked there until August. In those eight months, I bonded hugely with two girls there. Had NO intention of making lifelong friends, lol, but now we are. And they're coming to my wedding, and honestly if I hadn't had a bridal party set already I might have asked them to be in it because I've grown to love and trust them so much.

So chin up! You've got nothing to worry about. And welcome to WeddingWire, too!

First, I just asked my bridesmaids last weekend, and I'm getting married 5 months before you. People on these boards complain all the time about their bridal party, most of the time they regret having picked someone. The longer you wait, the less likely this is to happen to you. Oh, and your FH should wait too!

Second, FutureMrsSlav has a great point. If you really don't have any friends to ask, both of you could forego the bridal party thing.

Third, your bridesmaids do not have to live in the same town as you. My bridesmaids live 2 hours away, 8 hours away, and 16 hours away.

You don't need bridesmaids. But definitely feel free to ask the S/O's.... but I would just choose a basic color and let them wear what they want.... don't impose a big expense on them.

I had a similar issue. I had 2 but FH had 3 and I wanted things to be even. I asked FH about it and he recommended his cousin. So far she has been super nice and helpful. Its nice being able to get to know some of his family closer.

You definitely do not need bridesmaids even if he has groomsmen. It will be less drama and less cost without BM's. On the other hand I get it might be an experience that you might feel left out on, and if that's the case, don't be afraid to ask a few people. Just keep in mind that being a bridesmaid requires them to volunteer their time and money, so just keep things as simple and reasonable as possible, especially if you aren't as close with them. They may not volunteer (as with any BM even if they ARE close to you) to host a shower or a bachelorette for you. This happens more often than you think.

Anyway, don't feel like you are a loser. You are not. There's no shame, and weddings are not popularity contests.

I was in a similar situation and wanted to go with no BP, but it was something that was really important to my husband. I became friends with all of his GMs wives so I asked them to be BMs. I was a little nervous about asking them. Everyone was really excited and it was a cool dynamic to have a BP full of couples. It brought the whole group together even more.

You have a long time to meet new friends and develop relationships before your wedding. You don't have to decide on or ask people to be your bridesmaids right up front. Why don't you wait it out for a while and see if any of those co-worker relationships lead to genuine friendships?

I guess what I am saying is: don't rush it. It might be wiser to have no bridesmaids at all then to choose bridesmaids just for the sake of having them, and then have regret later on down the road.

I feel the same way :-/ My fiance is my best friend, and we have spent almost all of our time together for the past five years. We have friends that we hang out with in groups, my coworkers are amazing people, etc. but we don't really have besties, and we just feel lame! We might just each have our sibling, even though my sister's not really the kind who will get into it that much. We're just putting it off for now.

I bet sixth months from now you'll have gotten closer to some people! Just wait a while and see what happens.

Definitely wait to see how your friendships with these people develop! Maybe in a couple months you won't feel hesitant at all, but if you're feeling that way now you shouldn't ask them. Do you have friends where you used to live that you can ask?

I had a similar issue in that in my head I pictured a big group of girls but in reality I am the type to only have a few close friends. I originally had 3, 2 of my best friends and DHs sister. But along the way I realized that one of my oldest friendships had long since become toxic and I was turning a blind eye so I ended up with only 2 and really only 1 was mine. I barely know my SIL and we are FAR from friends. If DH hadn't had a sister I would have only had one and honestly I should have done it that way. DH only had one groomsman and he really had trouble even with that. He picked his cousin but actually felt a little awkward because they aren't as close as they were as kids. Looking back I should have probably let him have SIL on his side and then we could have each only had one. I don't know if that's what he would have wanted but I should have offered. He really wanted to ask my MOHs husband but he was uncomfortable since they weren't uber close. Funny thing is that by the time of the wedding they had spent a ton of time together and he really would have been the best choice. I knew that would happen too since they are our best "couple" friends. I would absolutely say to just hold out. You don't need to ask yet and it gives you some time to try to feel out your options. Maybe try to spend some more time with these people and see who you might be good friends with. Heck, maybe having this motivation will help you make friends!

You don't need a bridesmaid(s) by the way- I mean- it's nice and it's a thing- but if you don't have anyone close enough to you- don't just pick them just because they are there.

Standing alone with just the groom is totally okay.

When I see the groom and bride with the same number of attendants I think, fillers! I don't believe in choosing someone to stand by your side just for things to be even. It feeds into the idea that a wedding is some kind of show or production. So if there is one person you feel close to, maybe ask them. Also, seriously considering not having a bridal party. So unnecessary.

Labor Day?! That was so recent. Congrats! I wouldn't worry about the BP just yet. You've received some wonderful advice on here and you should definitely take this time to enjoy being newly engaged. You and your FH can start talking about the type of wedding you want, who you want to invite, and maybe you can do lunch with the SO's and if you find yourself closer with any of them later down the line then there you go. Welcome to WW!