Nobody is excited?

A thing I learned quickly is no one will ever be as excited as you are about the wedding.

"I feel like anyone can have a baby, but it takes commitment to be married."

This is not true, not all women can have babies. Even with that aside, having a baby is a huge deal and takes a big toll mentally and physically. It takes just as much, if not more commitment to raise a child. People don't just "have" babies.

That being said, I agree with Kelly. You are always going to be the person most excited for your wedding. And perhaps think about your last question a little more -attending a wedding as a guest does not take as much thought as preparing for a little one does. Be patient with your family, they're likely excited even if they're not actively showing it right now

Yikes. That last sentence is a bit rough. You're talking about a new life being brought into the world. That's a pretty big commitment.

To the rest of your comment, I'm sorry, it is a crappy feeling when it seem like no one is interested, but it's just something many many couples go through. Don't let their lack of excitement bring down your level of excitement. You may hopefully get a rise in excitement closer to your wedding too.

I understand your frustration with the situation, but she’s literally growing a child inside her. She did not get pregnant to actively sabotage your wedding.

If there are things you wanted her her to do that she’s not currently doing because she is pregnant find other people to help, or talk to her if you really want her involved.

If you’re not worried about her involvement, what is it that you’re looking for from people. Talk to them and tell them what you need. You’re an adult! Use your words rather than being passive aggressive that you feel “anyone can have a baby”.

I think what I’m most upset about is her lack of involvement with the family and my in laws until she became pregnant, and even still, is making my future in laws “prove” something so they can be involved in their grandchild’s life, whereas my fiancé and I have always been involved, go over every weekend, even lived with them for a brief period of time. I’ve gotten numerous comments from family members “how cute the baby is going to be” but nothing about “how beautiful the bride will be” my feelings are hurt about the whole thing.

Trust me, it takes a lot more commitment to have a baby than to get married. The baby is far more work, and you can't get a divorce if things don't work out.

Babies are a WAY bigger deal than weddings. That is literally another person coming into the world. Of course families will be super pumped about it. Also, depending how long your engagement is, people will really not be that excited for you until it gets closer. We experienced this. People really wanted to be involved and said a lot more compliments and expressions of enthusiasm as we got about a month or so out. This is your day, no one else’s, therefore unfortunately no one else really cares that much until it’s basically here. It’s a crappy feeling, but it’s fairly normal.

Your post is actually super disrespectful. Babies are a huge deal. I can speak from experience because my brother and his girlfriend announced their pregnancy shortly after our engagement. Your FSIL is literally creating human life. She’s giving your future in laws a grandchild, your husband a niece or nephew, etc. You and your husband are making a legal commitment, to someone you’re already emotionally committed to, and throwing a party. Not quite as big of a deal. As Kelly mentioned, no one is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. Work on being happier for the family you’re joining and a little less bitter.

As someone who isn’t the biggest kid person and doesn’t think babies are a big deal (this started from the start when I was a kid, not sure why but that’s just how I am) I get where you’re coming from. People can say how amazing it is to grow a human inside you, bring another kid into the world, etc etc but not everyone feels it’s the end all be all so I get it. Anyway, I think as you’re wedding gets closer attention and excitement will turn back toward you guys. Your side of the family and friends might be who you want to turn to for excitement and support. I also expected my fiancé’s side of the family to be involved because I saw how involved they were with his sister’s wedding last year. But due to some family health issues they haven’t been involved at all and I’ve stopped expecting anything from them which has helped a lot. And yeah also realizing that you’ll always be the most excited for your wedding will help as well.

Ur jealous of a baby? Because people r saying the baby will be cute but haven't said u will be a beautiful bride, ur jealous? U honestly feel u should be the total focal point of this entire family? Why?

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Agreed. People need to realize that they life moments are just that, THEIR life moments.

I was hoping you returned to this post and re-worded your post. However, I saw that you did, but you actually made it worse by trying to justify your initial post.

There are thousands of women who have been unable to conceive, and even more that are unable to carry a child to term. Please rethink you opinion.

Engagements often last longer than pregnancies. Furthermore, babies are awesome. As a mother, I can promise you it is as much, or more, of a commitment to be a good mother (or father) than to have a marriage. She didn’t steal your thunder, your day will come. Two good friends of mine are also engaged, and another is having a baby. I couldn’t be more happy for all of them, and enjoy letting them go on and on about their plans. While it may be frustrating to not feel like the center of attention, learn how to be gracious. It’ll take you much farther in life.

View Quoted Comment I don't think anyone in my in laws family said I would be a beautiful bride before the wedding. The day of the wedding though they told me how beautiful I was, how beautiful the wedding was.

Your last sentence and then your justification is probably why no one is interested. You honestly think you getting married is more important than creating a new life. I think you need to sit down and reflect on things and realize life’s not all about you and your wedding

A new baby is going to trump a wedding most always.

Girl, babies matter more than weddings. Set your date for after the baby is born so some attention can return to you if you really need it.

She stole your thunder. Sorry, it is what it is. Now, when is she due and your wedding planned. If they are in the same time frame...there will be even more issues. Then if she has the baby first...your wedding reception will be her chance to show off her baby to everyone in the family and that will take over your reception as well. Think you are irritated now...just saying.

Same thing for me... My wedding is 3.30.19 and my sister announced this past December that she is expected.. The focus shifted from my wedding to her..

I think people will be just as excited for your wedding as they are for the baby to come. When is the baby due and when is your wedding?

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Great advice! I am struggling with this myself.