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Just Said Yes May 2020

Nobody cares about my wedding

Hannah, on June 25, 2019 at 11:10 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10

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So, I have a medium sized family and we’re not all that close due to age gap (I’m 20 and siblings are in late 30s). My fiancée and I got engaged recently and already have a date set. We want a small wedding to begin with, we don’t have a lot of money so it will not be extravagant whatsoever. The problem is, my siblings and parents do not care. I got a “congrats” from two of my sisters, and they all ignore my text messages even though they said they’d like to be my bridesmaids. My fiancée’s family also does not really care or seem interested. Got a “congrats” from his mom, along with a “you have years to get married”. Nobody has offered to help, although I know it’s 2019 and I should take care of everything myself. It just hurts that nobody really cares about me getting married next year. I’m at the point where I might just get married in a court house and call it good (which I don’t have a problem with because the love for my fiancée trumps any ceremony).
Is anybody else in the same boat? I feel alone and disappointed.

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Latest activity by Mallory, on September 16, 2019 at 4:46 AM

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Melle · on June 25, 2019 at 11:13 AM
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Aw. I sort of felt that. I know it's disappointing because you want people to share in that excitement you feel.
I'm sure people are happy for you but aren't fully expressing it
Congrats!
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Just Said Yes May 2020
Hannah · on June 25, 2019 at 11:14 AM
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Thank you Melle, I appreciate it. 😊
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Allie · on June 25, 2019 at 11:15 AM
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Yeah, most people weren't happy to find out I'm getting married lol. I honestly just don't care and I'm happily planning the wedding that my FH and I want.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 25, 2019 at 11:16 AM
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You'll learn pretty quickly that no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. I'm sure people will get more excited closer to the actual event, but no one is going to be super interested in something that's 8 months away when they have their own busy lives. If you and your FS want to have a small, intimate wedding, do it. You don't need other people to jump for joy to have the wedding that you want.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 25, 2019 at 11:39 AM
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I'm so sorry you feel that way! In the end, your fiance & you care way more about this than anyone else will and that's just how it will be. If I were you, I'd do all the planning with your fiance and not involve family or friends unless they ask to be involved.
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Devoted October 2019
Michelle · on June 25, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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Everyone in my family has had a courthouse wedding, so when i told my family that we are planning an actual wedding ceremony and reception they asked me "why, a courthouse would be cheaper" so no one on my family side was all that excited except for a cousin who lives in Texas who can't attend because she will be extremely pregnant. My sister is finally on board and is helping a little bit. But I understand what you are going through.I guess what I'm trying to say is plan the wedding YOU want. Your wedding is about you and your FH and your love.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on June 25, 2019 at 12:29 PM
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I'm sorry you feel like that! that really stinks. Do you have any close friends who can share in your excitement?
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VIP October 2020
Kelly · on June 25, 2019 at 12:51 PM
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I'm in this boat. My fiance's family just... Isn't that great I general. I know my family is stressed because my grandmother passed recently but it still hurts. And my grandmother even told everyone not to stay about her passing because she wanted everyone to be happy for me and my siblings upcoming graduations and marraiges.
So far my best friend is excited, and my cousin who is in and out of rehab. So I don't really talk about it.
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Master October 2019
Laura · on June 25, 2019 at 7:30 PM
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I've definitely felt that way. My fiancee and I are older, i'm 49 and he's 54, so we got alot of "you guys don't "need" a wedding". I've pretty much done everything myself. My niece/MOH did go gown shopping with me and that was fun. I am hoping someone will help me with centerpieces
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Beginner April 2020
Mallory · on September 16, 2019 at 4:46 AM
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So sorry to hear this! Misery loves company, so I will just say that I am in somewhat the same boat. My parents kind of suck and are not being very supportive. My future mother I. Law is insisting on a bunch of stuff I really do not want. I don't feel heard and it totally sucks. Thankfully, our couples counselor helped a bit when she recently asked who I wanted support from and who I'm likely to get support from. My number one supporter is always going to be my darling fiance and soon to be husband. It's true. He's the only person going through this 100% with mw. And that's as it should be. It kind of sucks to learn that my family does not really care about what I want, but it's great to realize I will always get the support I need from the most important person!
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