No Weight Loss Motivation!

The quickest way to lose weight (while it might not be the healthiest or the most long-lasting) is to cut out all carbs, and only eat meat, eggs, cheese, etc. My best friend lost 30 lbs in one month doing this.

Keto will help you drop the weight fast. Check out the keto for beginners group on facebook. Also do cardio and HIIT exercised 4 days a week.

Awww I'm so sorry hun! Please do the best that you can to figure out these situations one at a time. If your future in laws keep complaining just let them complain lol. But if you must and have the budget to do so, offer to pay if they feel as if it is too much. If you don't have the budget to do so I would say have your FH speak with them if they are okay with spending the money on your guys rehearsal.

For your bridesmaids, what seems to be the issue? I wish they would just set this aside and focus on YOU because you're the one getting married!

As for your relatives who keep complaining or pointing out about how non traditional your wedding is, who cares! Do NOT let their opinion second guess what you TRULY want on your wedding day. This is YOUR wedding. Not theirs. They are merely guests who were luckily invited to attend to celebrate this new beginning with YOU and your FH.

As for losing weight here are some tricks to help you:
-Cut out or reduce sugar and carb intake
-Get rid of any and all junk food at your place
-Meal prep if you have time so it helps with ordering take out (you can do lunch and dinner or whatever you'd like)
-Exercise when you can even when you are home (put on your favorite show and workout for a good 30 mins - 1 hour)

And since you mentioned that you have anxiety and depression, make sure you are taking care of yourself. ALWAYS. Take a nice warm bath, get a massage, watch your favorite movie, listen to some videos on helping with anxiety and/or depression, write 5-10 things you are grateful for every day, etc. It's not selfish. And it may seem hard on most days, but at least try you know? I tend to deal with anxiety and depression every now and then myself, but I always make sure to communicate it with my husband so he knows that I am doing stuff for my mental health. So, make sure to communicate with your FH on this as well so maybe he can help out with chores, cooking, etc.

I'm truly sorry that you are going through all of this stress....but I am going to disagree with the rest of the commenters. Your fiancé is wanting to marry YOU. No matter what shape or size you are. I can understand wanting to make healthier choices or exercise to get HEALTHY for your wedding but please do NOT do any drastic keto diet or any other FAD diet. Do what you can to feel healthy about yourself. The IDEA that we have to shrink down for a wedding is absurd. While I hear you and I feel the same way - and our feelings our valid...don't beat yourself up. Do what you feel you can and in the most healthy way possible.

Don't obsess over the weight you "still have to lose". Celebrate the 15 lbs you already did! That's an accomplishment!!

Too many people set the bar for where they want to be weight wise for their wedding, keep in mind your fiance obviously loves you the way you are. Don't kill yourself to change yourself. Strive for consistent progress for your health and happiness, not a wedding dress.

Hi. I think you have so much on your plate that maybe worrying about your weight is the last thing that should be on your mind. Maybe not worrying about your weight can be one thing you can take off your mind.

First, congrats on losing 15 lbs! Weight loss is no easy feat and even though that feels far away from your goal it is still an accomplishment to be proud of!

Stress impacts your hormones and internal chemistry, including your metabolism. It sounds like you have A LOT going on and I can only imagine it would be really hard to balance yourself and reach a weight loss goal with dealing with all of those really complex social issues (which to me makes your weight loss of those 15 lbs all the more remarkable).

I think you need to cut yourself some slack (easier said than done, I know). You are balancing really challenging family dynamics, mental health issues, financial pressure, and wedding planning, which is all super stressful. Show yourself some compassion and try to, as much as possible, let go of "needing" to lose weight before the wedding. Your future spouse loves you for who you are, and you deserve a beautiful, joyful wedding as you are.

In the seven weeks remaining, prioritize your health. Your health is not your weight - it is happiness, it is relationships with others, it is time for yourself and self-care, and its managing your anxiety and depression. Focusing on you as a person, vs just a number on a scale, is going to empower you to be your best self at your wedding, and when you as a whole person are more in balance, things like weight loss should come easier. Try to move a little each day, and participate in activities that bring you joy. That will go a lot farther than counting calories, restricting food, and forcible exercise. If you feel up for it, try to make a small positive lifestyle change a habit. Maybe its taking 5-minutes to meditate in the morning, going for a walk around the block after dinner, or saying some affirmations to yourself on your commute to work. Small changes are more likely to stick than drastic measures. When you improve your overall wellness, other healthy habits come easier, and you find more peace with yourself regardless of how "on point" you tend to be on any given day.

I am sorry you are dealing with such difficulties all layered up like this, especially leading up to your wedding. It isn't easy on anyone. Virtual hugs!

Thank you everyone, all of your messages were really helpful and uplifting. I've decided that I am going to lean more towards mental repairs at the moment rather than trying to lose more weight in drastic ways over the next month. I'm still going to try to get at least 30 mins exercise a day, drink tons of water and be mindful of my eating. But I'm going to do my best to feel more positive over my body how it is right now, and possibly work up to healthy weight loss later.

I know what you mean, it's so hard to stay motivated sometimes. I gained about 40 lbs in the last few years and the pandemic only made things worse. I felt kind of hopeless at times, and didn't know where to start so I decided to join Weight Watchers (it goes by WW now) last year just to try it out. This was right after a friend of mine announced her wedding date and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I lost about 30 lbs within 5-6 months and I've been able to maintain the weight loss. More importantly, I've developed much healthier eating habits and try to make an effort to exercise at least 4-5 times a week. Their App use easy to use and has an awesome Community feature (it's like their social media but only for people doing WW). I'm hoping to lose another 20 lbs before my October 2022 wedding using the WW App.

Oh, I realize there's very little time left. But try not to eat after 6 pm. It helped me. I wish that everything will be fine with you!