No wedding registry

Make a money tree for your reception and just say on your invitations that you are having one 😊 my mom suggested I do this a my wedding

There's no polite way to mention anything about gifts on an invite.

If you don't have a registry, people will get the hint and bring cash or checks in cards for your card box.

View Quoted Comment WTH is a money tree?
Just don't really register. People will bring cash. There's no polite way to ask for cash.

Don’t register and don’t mention anything about cash, people will get the hint. Also you should never mention the registry on the invitation. The only place registry information should go is a shower invitation or a wedding website. Also be aware that not having a registry means you cannot have a shower.

Is there a polite way to tell people you don't want gifts and only want cash for Christmas, or your birthday?

PP's are right, just don't register...guests are smart enough to get the idea. For heavens sake DON'T do a money tree, it's your wedding not a elementary school fundraiser.

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No please don't do this. It's gross. There's no polite way to ask for money. People know it's a good gift, and the lack of registry is the best hint that that is what you prefer. Cash grabs at receptions are low class.

Unfortunately, there is no polite way of mentioning that you want cash. Just don't create a wedding registry.

Beware that if you do no wedding registry at all, you will probably still get some gifts. You might consider a small wedding registry?

Don't register. Don't say anything. People usually bring cash then.

Do not mention gifts on the invitation. Don't have a money jar, money tree, etc. at the reception. If your guests want to give you money, they will have it already in a card to give to you. If they want to get you a physical gift, they will do that. Some people are not comfortable giving cash as a gift, and you can't do anything about that. How they gift is their business.

There no polite way to do an impolite thing.

My mother suggested a money tree for our wedding. We didn't do it, but apparently it's a cultural thing and most of my 50 + cousins and relatives did it at their weddings.

We didn't have a registry and we had nothing on our invites one way or the other. Everyone minus one person brought us cash. People will figure it out on their own and by word of mouth.

We're not doing a gifts registry either. We've been together for seven years and have guests coming from different countries and languages (stores aren't the same, languages, shipping, currencies, cultures, etc) and doing a registry was just not something we wanted to do.

We've told our bridal party and family that we'd prefer cash so that way if anyone asks them (from the larger invites list), they can spread the word more politely than people asking us directly and us just awkwardly saying we'd prefer cash.

We decided to tackle the subject on our wedding website FAQ page and this is what we wrote :

Q: Is there a gifts registry?
A: The most important thing for us is your presence during the day to celebrate our marriage, but if you do want to make a gesture, there will be a card box for envelopes/gift table at the wedding.

Don't register but understand that means no shower. So if that's important to you then have a small registry. We will probably remove our registry after the shower more because we don't have e a ton of space in our little apartment.

View Quoted Comment I love this

This really alienates lower income guests. There’s a big difference between bringing someone a picture frame they asked for and bringing $15. Not asking for something makes people feel uncomfortable and pressured.

A money tree is plain rude. So is asking for cash. I am totally offended that you are not registering and want me to give you cash.

With a registry, you can return those items and get the cash you desire.

I do not even bother to go nor do I let them know I am not attending. I RSVP that I am coming and then no show, to the weddings where they want cash. It is simply rude.

View Quoted Comment Not giving cash is fine and many social circles and families do not gift cash at all, despite the popularity to the opposite. In our families, there are very few if any popular on WW things that would get you blacklisted from future events, cash gifts instead of registering being one of them, because they are awkward and uncomfortable to receive. But it is equally rude to not let the couple know that you are not attending when they may be spending a huge amount per guest and expecting and wanting you to be there. If you are that offended, it’s more polite to end the friendship on the spot but don’t keep anyone hanging.

View Quoted Comment A money tree is rude. Asking for money is rude. NOT registering only means you aren’t thinking of gifts at all and is most definitely NOT rude. You’re the one whose behavior is inappropriate. To say the least. Also, this thread is five years old.

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Thank you so much for that and I completely agree. We also have people coming from out of country. I cannot believe the amount of terrible comments regarding this specific question. It is not impolite to opt for a no registry wedding. It is a choice between the groom and bride. Sometimes they are blessed already with house appliances and dishware that they just really want to save for a home or contribute to their honeymoon and have a good saving account to really start their lives together.