No wedding registry

You could create a cash fund but usually if you don’t register then people get the idea to give cash

People know cash is a good gift. If someone asks about a registry, simply say that you don't have one. You may still get people who buy you something random (which happens even with a registry) and others who don't gift you anything (which also happens even with registries). In the NY metro area, it's pretty standard to give cash/checks in a card anyway, so you shouldn't have too much of an issue.

It's actually rude to mention anything about gift/cash preferences. If people ask, then you can say that you aren't registered but you don't announce it. Even registries are not announced and are only shared by word of mouth when guests ask for info.


Be aware that many people do not give cash gifts for any occasion. You accept what they give you graciously with a prompt thank you.

Asking for cash is always tacky. I don't even like gift registries, but at least with a physical gift, the giver will have some idea of how it's used.


You're already married, you have 3 kids, you own your home. Asking for cash seems more like a fundraiser in your case. It's not as if you're starting your lives together.
If you really want cash, register at a local store that has a generous return policy, and return all the items for store credit.

View Quoted Comment Lol, first off, I own a co cop not a home but thank you for your opinion.

View Quoted Comment Yea, part of your response is wrong love. With all the weddings and wedding related events. Gift registries are always on the invitation. Isn't the point of having a registry is for me to get what I want? Plus, since writing this post almost all gift registries I look up had a cash option. So its not tacky its just the way you present it. But I do thank you for your opinion.

View Quoted Comment Plus, you completely disregarded my reasons for not wanting a registry and just because we are married with kids doesn't mean we don't want gifts so that doesn't really make any sense but like I said to another bride since writing this post I see that most registries have a cash or a gift card option, so its not tacky just the way you present it🤷🏾‍♀️.

It's completely fine to not have a registry. Having or not having one won't influence whether or not guests give you a gift (including money; money counts as a gift and most people know it's welcome).

People who attend your celebration who always give wedding gifts will send/bring something because that is the custom. In your situation, because you don't need *stuff and things*, I wouldn't register. If anyone asks if/where you are registered, go ahead and say, "No but we are saving for a new home." Other than that, I would try not to worry so much about gifts. There are much better things to stress about when wedding planning.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, definitely not stressing myself out. I was just looking to see what other people who didn't have registries did. I definitely not gonna do a registry with only a cash option. Like a PP said, I'll just leave it to word of mouth.

Usually registry information would only go on a shower invitation, not a wedding invitation. We received only cash/checks in a card at our wedding. We had a registry but the physical gifts were purchased for our showers.

I’m 61+and we don’t need more stuff. I told a friend who asked that we have all we need. We do enjoy personalized items. But no more “stuff”

I'd make a small registry with a few items just so the people who insist on giving you a physical gift will at least buy you things you like (you can also choose small items, or storage containers, or furniture for your kids). People generally know to give money when the registry is empty, and that eliminates some of the awkward conversations. Also you can set up a registry on the knot and a few other sites where you put items like, "new house fund," or "honeymoon hotel stay," or "dishwasher," on it and people contribute money toward that thing. The money goes directly into your account. This works best if you put a little note at the top that says something like, "we're so fortunate to have everything we need. The gift we'd like the most is your presence at our wedding. If you'd like to purchase something for us, we'd love a contribution to our new house fund so you can help up build our future together as a family." This way you're pretty much registering for money and everyone knows what's going on, but it seems a little classier.

View Quoted Comment This is a great idea!

View Quoted Comment Oh I see. Thanks