No Wedding Present from Inlaws?

They paid for the catering, which is a huge expense. That's definitely enough of a gift. It kind of stinks that they didn't give a card with a personal message, but there's seriously no room to complain about the gift portion.

I would definitely consider that their gift! I feel like I'd be a little surprised by no card, but honestly I wouldn't notice.

I'm not sure what the etiquette on this is but personally, I'd still send them a thank you card for what they contributed. I'd rather have my family contribute to my wedding by helping out than have them buy me gifts. That's just me though.

I would also be surprised by no card, but I agree with Hanna. I would still send them a thank you note for everything they helped with for the wedding.

^Definitely agree with sending them a thank you card!

Did they contribute to the wedding at all? My parents did not give us a gift, because they paid for the wedding. However, I would be surprised that they don't give you a gift if they didn't contribute $ to the wedding. Most likely, they're waiting to give you something more personal.

ETA: Nvm, saw the part about paying for catering. I think you should consider that your wedding gift (that's no small change-- we paid like $15k for food and drink alone!)

My FMIL & FFIL contributed zero dollars to our wedding and if they don't bring a card, I will spaz a lot. I'm not sorry for that.

They paid for your catering bill. That's definitely a very generous gift.

I would think them for their help paying for the catering. Without that, you wouldn't have had any food! I mean... I'm sure you would have, but someone else would have had to pay for it!

His mother gave us (Actually, HIM) $200. never acknowledged me at all during nor after the wedding, and H had to pick the money up from her.

his dad and step mom didn't give us a gift but they paid for the rehearsal and the alcohol, we def considered that our gift. We just gave them their thank you card (late, but its a long story, got mixed up with other papers and forgot to be mailed, I handed it to FIL in person because we work together, and explained that).

I would send them a thank you card because you do owe them a thank you for paying for that large expense.

I personally wouldn't expect a gift after they helped pay for a portion if the wedding. Also, wouldn't expect a card. I know my future in laws are so happy and supportive of the marriage, a card wouldn't add anything to the sentiment that has already been expressed.

I'm on the same page as everyone else. The catering is a huge gift! I would consider that the wedding gift. A nice thank you card is in order for that.

I'm with RJMargo - definitely thank them for their generosity! There is no obligation for them to give you an additional, separate gift. Not having a card is a little surprising, but my then-FILs gave us a card about a week before the wedding, and that's all I expected. If your FILs don't regularly send you birthday cards and holiday cards, it may just not be their thing. I wouldn't get hung up on it.

Agree to still send them a thank you card for helping with the wedding. I would like to think that it was an oversight and not intentional.

My mother gave us the world's most generic card, with nothing inside, just her signature. As much as I didn't want to be petty, it was so damn hurtful. Maybe it's because my DH and I have been together for a long time already? Either way, it sucked. (She gave my younger sister a KitchenAid as a wedding gift...) She's kind of an asshole.

ETA: My mom did not contribute financially to our wedding at all, so I really don't know why she would do this. We bought her $200 worth of wines for her wedding to my stepfather a few years ago.

The reception food was a very generous gift and I am surprised you are even bringing this up. Why would you expect anything else? I'm sure they were supportive throughout the process and they congratulated you in person - how is a $5 card going to add anything? It really boggles my mind how many people complain about guests not giving cards. Guess what - most people grab a card at the very last minute, at a drug store on the way to the wedding, and quickly sign it. It isn't THAT personal.

It's unusual, but I imagine that they decided all the expenses they covered were the gift, and that totally makes sense. Send them a thank you card for that, and their help.

I agree that paying for catering at the reception is most likely their gift. The rule of thumb is that the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal, so I would definitely consider that their gift. Thank them for it. A card would have been nice, but it isn't necessary.

I don't expect gifts from my parents or the in laws. They've been super generous and not just with the wedding.

Another option no one seems to have considered: if this seems really out of the ordinary for them, like they're usually really considerate, polite and aware, is it possible that they wrote you a card that never made it to you? For whatever reason? It could have gotten somehow lost in your stuff, or maybe forgotten in their car at the last minute before the wedding. I'm sure they felt a bit of wedding stress, themselves, and we all know how real wedding brain is lol Maybe it's unlikely but I can see this scenario ending with your ILs feeling awful that you never received their heartfelt card.