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Nicolette
Savvy October 2021

No wedding party?

Nicolette, on January 2, 2020 at 12:12 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
My fiancé says he just wants us and our two babies to be apart of the ceremony. No groomsmen or bridesmaids. I see both pros and cons to this as I wont have anxiety of feeling someone is left out or feelings are hurt I didn’t include them. But on the other hand I want to have photos with my girls all dolled up and cute. The dilemma is killing me. Any suggestions?


Also, he’s saying this because I would have to have 8-10 bridesmaids to his 2-3 groomsmen. He says “less people less headache”. If it was up to him we would just elope on a beach somewhere but then my parents would kill us so that can’t happen. LOL

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Latest activity by SONDRA, on January 2, 2020 at 2:59 PM
  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    Any way you could cut your number down? A friend of mine had 2 bridesmaids. She had a list of 12, but her fiance could only come up with 2. She went with her best friend and a sister. It worked and no one came out salty.
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  • Dierdra
    Super August 2021
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    Would you two have siblings or close cousins as wedding party options. If you had a smaller number then that could be your excuse to the other 8-10 people you could have in your party!

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We didn’t have a wedding party—no regrets! I don’t think most adults mind these days if they’re NOT selected. They get to enjoy your wedding as a guest without extra costs or obligations.


    You can always offer your BFFs the chance to get ready with you if they. My mom and sister got their makeup done and the photographer snapped a few pics of us together before first look (my favorite pics of the 3 of us). It was fun.
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  • Sara
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I'm having my 8 year old son as the best man, and I choose the friend I was closest to to be the main of honor. Shes also the closest to my son and with him having autism it will help keep him calm during the wedding. I worried him being surrounded by too many people would set him off during the ceremony. Best decision we made, and no one is upset by our decision!
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I went to a wedding where one of my friends do not have a bridal party and I know that one of her friends was annoyed by it but it was her decision and I think it was less headache. I will say that might be way too many bridesmaids and I need time I have seen large Bridal parties there is usually some kind of drama. Crazy I think that you both should compromise so maybe you could just have two ladies in your bridal party and he doesn't have to have any groomsmen if he doesn't want to. I think for me luckily my FH was good having a couple of friends there when we got married because although I would love to have my maid of honor and my friends who would be your bridesmaid by my side it's more important to have my best friend there as my maid of honor by my side helping me get ready and standing by me. So I don't really think you need to have 8 to 10 people and if anything people would more be hurt if you include some people and not others. I think not having a bridal party all together at least it makes the playing field fair for everyone but either way it's your wedding. My friend that got married in May of this year has been a bridesmaid and plenty of her friends Weddings But for hers she didn't want a big bridal party so she just had her sister as her matron of honor and her niece as a flower girl. Some of her close friends were there to help out with playing the processional songs or maybe setting up the reception or things like that and I thought that was a nice way to kind of include them but that makes sense.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Sorry I just hit reply by accident and I did speak and text for that entire post so I hope it makes sense. Long story short you and your fiance should compromise and I think that may be having 8 to 10 ladies has way too much. You can still take pictures with them even if they are not wearing bridesmaids dresses.
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    I'll have 7 bridesmaids and honestly, it's a lot. I would see if you can shave the number down. They'll all dress up for your wedding anyway. Just take a photo at the receptionSmiley smile

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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    If you want have a small wedding party

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  • Marquita
    Dedicated January 2020
    Marquita ·
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    Personally I think it’ll be less headache. It’s crazy how people act for someone’s wedding lol but everyone’s friends/family isn’t crazy. Also that’s a big number difference. If it was a small number difference it’ll be okay. My fiancé has 7 groomsmen/maid and I have 5 bridesmaid and we’re okay. Do what makes you happiest. Maybe begin planning first and doing the important stuff then think about the “fun” part lol
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  • Marquita
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Oh and like someone else said, they don’t have to be BM to take pics. You can simply ask your guests to wear a specific color scheme and boom you have pics color coordinating lol
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  • Future Mrs. Cwik
    Devoted March 2021
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    We aren’t doing a wedding party and I intend to get a pic with my girls - it’ll just be different than the norm!
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  • Amber
    Devoted July 2019
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    We didn't do a wedding party and no regrets! Just us and our little girl as flower girl. Now I didnt have a bridal shower or bachelorette party which i also didnt care about. You can still get a picture with all your girlfriends, they just wont match! lol

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  • Shauna
    Just Said Yes October 2021
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    We've decided not to have bridesmaids or groomsmen either. I was thinking of inviting my friends to do their hair and makeup with me before the wedding, and just doing cute photos of us together with the photographer, but not as a "wedding party". Or even if we don't do MUAH together we can still all get nice pics together at the wedding. I dunno. Everyone has different style so I'd rather just see everyone wearing what makes them feel good. Just my two cents! Best of luck.
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  • SONDRA
    Dedicated March 2020
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    We decided to only have 2 bridesmaids - my sister and my daughter. We'll have 1 best man - his brother. We are not having flower girl, etc. It seems to be causing some confusion but we are OK with our decision. We didn't want anyone to have to spend a lot of money on our wedding. We are going to have a processional with the rest of our close family. That way - they are included, get to sit in the front and can wear whatever they want.

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