No wedding party, our kids only at alter

I don't know that there is any "pulling off". Just have them walk you down the aisle and stand by you. Not a big deal, several brides on here have done the same thing. As for vows, your officiant should be able to help you with ideas.

My FSC are the wedding party. They are teenagers. We are not doing vows with the children. I believe the marriage is between two consenting adults. The children have no choice but to accept the blended family. I don't think they are obligated to promise anything. At the reception I will read a nice note letting them know I love and support them.

For heaven's sake, do not have kids say vows! Only you and your FI, not your girls, are responsible for the success of your marriage. If, God forbid, you should have issues in your marriage, you do not want your girls to feel like it's their fault.

That being said, it is perfectly acceptable not to have a wedding party, or to have your girls as your wedding party.

Our wedding will just be me, my FH, and his teenage daughter. I am having her walk then me. Our officiant will say something to announce us as a family during the ceremony. We are keeping it simple. If you really wanted something, why not have them add their color to a unity candle? Vows are a lot of pressure on everyone. Have your FH say something in a speech at dinner to them? I think being together on this day says a lot and the symbolism of the pictures, together, them walking with you, all of you standing as a family says enough.

Have them do like a sand ceremony or unity candel. Do not have them save vows....

Same here ! I have a 21 year old daughter a 19 year old son and a 20 year old step daughter! That's my bridal party!!