No Unity Ceremony?

I skipped it entirely too. Just didn’t really feel like doing one aha

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Haha okay perfect!! I'm glad it's not just me, I dont know I just dont want to do it lol

I'm skipping it in my ceremony as well.

We're not doing one, it actually was not even a consideration, Lol. I think those are totally optional.

I am with you! I keep going back and forth on it! The FW wants one, but I am not 100% sold on it yet.

We aren't allowed to do this in my church and I have never seen it done. I say skip it if you're on the fence.

Countless weddings skip the mini ceremonies (unity candles, sand, etc) as they are a modern thing that didn't exist before 20 years ago and then they were few and far between. They are just as legal and valid as those that do have candles or sand. Most people see the wedding itself, vow and ring exchange to be plenty as a unity ceremony on its own. Do what works for you.

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Okay awesome. I guess more people are skipping than i thought, thank you, this definitely makes me feel better about not having one!

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My FH didn't even know what it was lol so I dont think he has a preference

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I think I am just going to skip it, it seems easier that way

Unity ceremonies are an additional element you can add to your wedding ceremony if you want - they're not a requirement!

Many modern traditions and elaborate "must-haves" that the Wedding Industry Complex insitsts are required actually originated on a tv show. Hence many churches don't allow them.

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That makes sense, unfortunately we aren't able to get married in our church regardless because we are living together and have two children out of wedlock ...... :/ So we are doing our ceremony elsewhere.

Your whole ceremony is a unity ceremony. You're good.

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Perfect, thank you!!

We were going to have one with my FHs son, but opted against. We are still debating on whether or not I’ll say some vows to him though

We're planning on doing a glass ceremony, which I actually really like, but if we hadn't found that one, I think we would've skipped it! A lot of them just feel silly to me.

No one will think anything of you skipping it!

View Quoted Comment Yes, this. We didn't do any additional unity ceremonies since the whole point of the wedding is us being united!

I think the reason people do unity ceremonies with kids that they didn't have together is to symbolize that they're all coming together. Your kids started out as members of a family that included both of you, so your marriage doesn't represent a change for them.

Ours was very short. We had: a welcome, declaration of consent, vows, rings, glass breaking, kiss, introduction as couple.
Skip anything you don't care about.

I'm clumsy and didn't want to accidentally set myself on fire so we skipped it.