No Shows

So we actually had the same thing happen to us. We had a couple guest who RSVP’d for our engagement party and just didn’t show up. I have no plans on inviting them to the wedding and don’t feel bad about it. They’re always flaking out on events period and just like you said, I don’t want to take that chance with spending all that money.

Nope. That’s extremely inconsiderate of them and they should not be invited to future events.

Are you hosting your own shower? Because shower invites typically are sent from the host who is someone who is not the bride and they are sent after wedding invitations are sent. So it will make you come across in a bad light to uninvite someone just because they couldn’t attend the shower. Unless you don’t care about burning bridges with those people.

View Quoted Comment I sent my own invites. And my shower is way before my wedding, this weekend. My wedding isn’t until September. So I’m pretty much doing things my own way and not the typical way.

View Quoted Comment Right! I have a few flaky people that I still invited to my shower and one has already changed her reservation to maybe just days before… but I guess at least she’s letting me know. Also, she wanted to bring a plus one to the shower (I though that was very weird to me) so I had to explain to her that it’s an intimate affair for the bride’s friends and family only. I’m assuming this is part of the reason that she’s considering changing her mind on attending.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I’ll keep that in mind because I don’t want people to flake on the wedding after already flaking on the shower or any other events. It’s like a red flag that you ignore

We are not doing any pre-wedding events but I would feel the same way you do, even if the someone else paid for it.
More and more people don't care about etiquettes (and non-wedding related etiquettes/manners in general) anymore. They need to be taught how to behave... the hard way if necessary.
Someone who trully cares about you reaches you out and apologizes.

View Quoted Comment Right, I definitely put money in on the shower. But even if I didn’t, someone is paying for it and you can have some decency to say you won’t make it. Especially when they have favors and things assigned to guests.

Highly inconsiderate!

That's very rude to RSVP yes and not show up.

If they can't come to the shower for whatever reason and RSVP no, then that's a totally different situation.

I'm confused about who is hosting the shower for you? Has it already happened? Did people not show up?

View Quoted Comment A +1 for a shower? The things we learn on Wedding Wire. 😆

I'd say you're fine not inviting them to the wedding.