No rsvp response

It is called laziness. We had the same problem except we used paper RSVPs.

I have not even had a wedding but I know through other brides that RSVP'ing is lost on some people. I am a jerk but send one more reminder and let them know if you do not receive a response that you will not count them in the head count. If people cannot take time to RSVP then assume they are not coming and if they do there is not a place holder for them. I am sorry to be harsh but I have not patience for adults that do not know how to act lol.

We requested ours by email and still had to chase people down afterwards. They could have done it front the toilet! People are just lazy. Thankfully I set the deadline a little early so I had time before needing to turn in my final numbers but still, so annoying.

I think you could either call or text today and tomorrow, and they’ll them I’ve you haven’t had an answer by Sunday 12/15 at 11:59 PM, you’ll assume they won’t be there and they will forfeit their seat. It’s unfortunate, but some people need harshness :/

I totally understand the frustration! Unless something is lost in the mail, Not RSVPing is so mind boggling to me. Have some courtesy to the bride and groom who are hosting and paying for a wedding and have decided they want you there to celebrate and rsvp on time! I haven’t had to deal with it (yet), but I’m expecting that I will. My friend just had a wedding and she created a totally private fb event and added all of the people that had yet to RSVP to remind them that they need to send the RSVP in or they would be considered a no and people quickly responded to that. It was helpful because my invite never arrived and so I was one of the non rsvps and handled it right away. She was able to send me a new invite and I rsvp’d the second I got it. Then the RSVP got lost in the mail so she called me lol. Good luck!!

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I 100% agree with Alejandra. She hit the nail with this one. It's true, it's pretty unfortunate that we have to be harsh with some people, but what can you do? You need your numbers and it isn't fair to you and your partner. All the best

We're having the same issue. 62 out of 152 invited guests have yet to respond. Our deadline was yesterday, so I'm hoping we'll be receiving a bunch in the mail in the near future. We provided paper RSVPs with addressed stamped envelopes, as well as the option to do it online. It's seriously pure laziness. I'm sure with the holidays, people forgot too. I'm going to send reminders in a few days. We live in a small town, so our mail takes a little bit extra time to get to us, so I'm hoping there's going to be a bunch of them that show up this week. We're date twins btw!

No one in our wedding party RSVPed, I guess I assumed by them being in the wedding that they were attending haha! We sent save the dates 10 months out, invites 3 months out and guests had them for 6 weeks prior to having to RSVP. They could RSVP online or by mail with a stamped & addressed envelope we included. We invited 225 and had to contact 61 after our RSVP date. It's just super common and every bride deals with it. It really took us maybe an hour or two to contact everyone.

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I agree, if you're not harsh, you'll never get a response!

It was recommended to me to set the “RSVP deadline” a week before the actual deadline for vendors and then use that week to call and get an official answer. If someone does not pick up then leave a voicemail asking for them to please call you back with an answer as the deadline has passed but you still hope they can join you. If they have not answered by the true deadline you then send a message saying that since you had not heard from them you would be assuming that they would not be attending the wedding and that you would not longer be reserving a seat with vendors for them but would love to get together and catch up after the wedding

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Great advice, Katie!!!

Thanks for the advice ladies!! Set FH on the task of reaching out today and we’re now down to only 32 no responses left. So getting closer! I like the idea of being harsh, light some fire under them lol. Like sorry, you’re being an invited to a party with free dinner and drinks, how dare I only expect you to just let me know if you’re coming

Yea that's the pain of people rsvp'ing they take forever and I noticed for my wedding most didn't RSVP til near the end. It's unfortunate that it's common to need to chase someone for an answer.

You could call or email saying your venue needs their final number. Period.