No response to rsvp

I would make an assumption that they aren’t coming. I made a promise to myself that I would not run up behind anyone to RSVP. I requested addresses for Save The Dates, one Person read my message but didn’t respond and it’s been 2 weeks so they’re off the list. Sorry, I just don’t have the tolerance. It takes 2 seconds.

Reach out one more time. If they don’t answer leave a message “Hello, so and so. I’m calling because I still haven’t heard from you regarding the RSVP for my wedding. The caterer needs my headcount, so if I do not hear back from you by __whatever day__ I will have to unfortunately assume you cannot make it and mark your party as a decline.”

I agree with the above poster that If you’re really hoping they can make it reach out one last time. However, We decided to only follow up once in case it was a mail issue. If we didn’t hear back after the follow up, we assume they aren’t coming.

I recommend that the wording of the first follow up contact is assertive enough that you don't have to make a second. Who has time for multiple phone calls?

It's too late for you, so I would contact them once more.

"I am calling because our caterer needs final numbers and we haven't received your rsvp. If we don't hear from you in the next 24 hours, we will have to count you as a no and will miss you at the wedding."

Sounds good thank you I was worried about marking people as not coming and then they come and food amounts being all messed up!

I'm with Muriel, I don't want to have to pester people so give a firm deadline and then if they don't reach out, oh well.

I'm in this boat too. We have a few days left to our rsvp deadline, and about 45 people who have not replied.

I used an eco-friendly online service so, I know all invites were received and opened. I re-sent them this week to bump them to the top of everyone's emails. That helped get a few more rsvps... but it's just so rude that people don't respond. Especially when it's literally a click on your phone (we made it so simple!).

If people want to attend our wedding, they should be excited/happy about it and rsvp. We shouldn't be a task to do, or forgotten about (this goes for any bride/groom). I'll have to do the same, and assume they aren't coming.

I would agree with Nikki but I'm curious for those of you who say you don't follow up with them. What if they don't RSVP them show up? Would you ask them to leave or tell them they unfortunately won't have a seat/ food. How would that work if they showed up?

I have to tell you, for my wedding, the people that did not respond who I thought were least likely to come are the ones that already had their tickets booked and a hotel room booked to come to our wedding when I finally got a hold of them. I wouldn't assume.

Well my wedding date is June 7th 2019. Sent STDs in February. Invites went out in April-RSVP on invite shows May 3rd....Will followup w/non responders May 10th-a week after deadline with the hopes of having final numbers shortly after (about 3 weeks out). It does not take weeks to say yes or no if you are coming to a wedding you KNOW is coming up and which Bride/Groom hope you are excited and looking forward to. I plan on following up even after non responders have be contacted with something on the lines of "we hate that you are unable to make our wedding-you will be missed and we hope to get together soon"...or something like that. Want to make it clear we are considering you not coming and its ok. I do believe it is considerate to at least reach out once but no keep bugging or hounding-if you cant be bothered to respond at some point then you have to move on. I know I dont want to be worrying about numbers for budgeting purposes for 1 but for 2 just want a peace of mind regarding some things the closer it gets to wedding. Let us know how it worked out!!