No registry?

It's okay to not have a registry of you're not having a shower. If you did do a small registry, the information would be spread by word of mouth.

Yes it's fine not to have one, especially since you aren't having a shower. Just be prepared that some people prefer to give physical gifts instead of money, so you may end up with some things that aren't to your taste or that you don't need.

We don't have a registry and it hasn't been an issue at all. I think registries maybe make sense for young couples moving out of their parents' houses or their college dorms who need stuff to build a home, but my FH are in our 30s and live together so it felt to me like it would have been greedy to have a registry. It really is an expense for people to attend a wedding already, so just having our friends and family with us is all we could ask for.

I'm having issues with people and this too. We don't need anything, have a small apartment, and no room to store things till we get a house in 8 months! We're only spending $5000 overall for entire reception. And just signing marriage papers that morning. No church, no shower, no flowers, no bridal party, etc. But, we're still getting shit that it's not what people traditionally do, and they don't know what to get us. We're practical, and not like most materialistic Americans. How can I tell my family and friends to just send gift cards or money without sounding like a B?

@violet yes same here we are both in our 30's and have lived together for 4 years. Also it's a second marriage for me. Maybe we could do a small one I guess in case anyone does ask about it.

@lauren you don't ask people for money ever it's rude

We added a note on the wedding website that we most appreciate their presence. We've also flatly refused to discuss gifts. We're both moving to our new place, and we had 5 crockpots, 4 coffee pots, 4 blenders, and more dishes than some department stores. I tell people that what I want more than anything is time with them.

I didn't do a registry . I regret it. It is so fuckin awkward when people ask if you have one and you have to say no.

Get a small one for those who ask

@Lauren R.

You actually sound extremely materialistic because you want your friends and family to give you cash.

Making a registry is not a request for things but rather a guide for guests so that they do not give you multiple toasters or towels that clash with your bathroom.

Sorry you will always sound like a B because you should never ask for money or gift cards.