No registry no card box no gift table

People will gift you anyway. Not having a card box or gift table will basically equate to people handing you cards or gifts at the reception. I get where you're coming from, though.

It will be too late to hint that you don't want gifts if you wait for them to see no gift table at the reception. People buy gifts before the wedding day.

Just don't register anywhere and when they ask tell them you aren't registered

People will show up with cards and money if you don’t have a registry. Perhaps on the invite you could write, “no gifts please.” You could also consider donating any money provided to a charity of your choosing. Then you could state something about how money gifts will be donated to x charity?

I would have a card box. If guests are handing you cards throughout the reception it could get hectic and cards could be misplaced.

I think you should still have a card box. Even if people don’t give you a gift, they’d still bring a card to congratulate you. We had plenty of people not give us gifts, or ship gifts to our home, but they still gave a card that night.

People will still bring gifts and they’ll still bring cards. I don’t think you're going to want to walk around the whole time holding on to cards.

If you feel that strongly about it, you can put it on your wedding website if you have one. Something like, "We kindly request your presence as our gift.". Youay

I'd keep the card box at least, so people can still leave you best wishes and cash gifts if they choose. Seems much simpler to have a place set aside for the box at the reception, rather than holding on to (and potentially misplacing) cards and any gifts throughout the night.

Goodness this no editing thing is kicking my butt!

You may still receive gifts or cards, but at least you made your request known. I think it's different when people don't want anyone to bring anything vs. when people get money grabby and ask for donations to a honeyfunds. This is something you could also try to spread via word of mouth...

I agree that people will gift you anyway. I would recommend adding a line that says “no gifts please, your presence is present/gift enough.” You may still get a few cards win cash or gift cards but should limit the gifts.

We are only doing a seated dinner at a restaurant. 25-35 people. 10-12 of whom are minors. And 2 of which are US! Lol
no wedding website either.
I don’t think smacking a card box as a centerpiece on the dining table would be ideal either.

You didn’t initially give that information that’s why people commented how we did

I'm not sure what the etiquette is here. I don't know that you could include an insert in the invitation or anything because I'm not sure how that would come off.

Here's something to think about: My dad always tells me that when we give, we're blessed so when we don't allow others to give to us, we rob them of their blessing.

While you may not WANT the gifts, I agree that they will buy gifts ahead of time so whether you have a table or not will not prevent your guests from showing up with them and some will truly want to give you something. This is a tough one. I'm sorry I can't offer much help.

You can always set out a jar at your wedding that says honeymoon fund and people can give you money or gift cards and you can use that for anything you may need but people will still buy you gifts and you may need a place to put them!

People will still bring a card even if it doesn’t contain a gift. You should have a box for them.

I went to a wedding of a couple is a similar situation to you and they had a charity registry. I thought it was very nice. They got some gifts and stuff, but most people actually listened to there wishes. They had two to chose from. I think that's a good idea because some peole have beef with certain charities. That might be a good solution for you. I guess I would put on the invite something like that you do not want/need presents, but if the guest has overwhelming generosity they could consider donating to these charities. I don't think that's rude, personally.

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I hope that was sarcastic but I am afraid that you actually mean it. Make sure you do some research about wedding etiquette before you make any of your own decisions.

To the OP- with 25-25 guests people can give their card directly to one of you. Just make sure you have a plan for their safe handling, even if it means a box or bag under the table at your seat. Expand that plan to include the inevitable gifts. People will never learn that gifts should never be brought to the wedding, but be delivered before or after the wedding.

Never put anything about gifts or no gifts on the invitation itself. "No gifts please" or the hokey "Your presence is the only present", implies that without your permission otherwise, the guests should have been thinking of buying a gift.

If anyone asks you about a registry you can graciously respond, "We have everything we need. Please just join is in celebrating our marriage"

Why don't you want to do a card box? Don't register. People will get the hint. You may be pleasantly surpirsed with what people gift you. All of our gifts were very generous and most were cards with checks in them. If you have a card box, God, please keep it secure or have a trusted family member watch it. People have had them stolen at restaurants and stuff and that's awful. I do think you should do a card box/table though.

Even if you say something, you'll still get gifts. Have a small table ready.

We are also opting for no registry; on our wedding website, we instead included the names of three charities that we feel strongly about, and asked our guests to make a donation to celebrate the occasion. That said, I've been to dozens of weddings, and I've personally never shown up without a card. I just think it's a nice gesture that a lot of people will do even if they DON'T buy you anything. I would personally at least recommend having a place for people to put cards - having them hand them to you all night seems like it would be distracting from enjoying your big day!