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Stephanie
Savvy August 2020

No Registry, just cards

Stephanie, on December 6, 2019 at 11:43 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 8
My FH and I are not doing a registry and I'm not having a bridal shower. Since we have moved in together a year ago and got a ton of house warming gifts/ bought new things for ourselves we legetimately have nothing that we want and believe it's too soon to "upgrade" all the great gifts we've already received. I would really love instead to get cards from guests to put in a scrapbook of our wedding. I love cards and think these keepsakes will be much more meaningful!
So I wrote on our website "We recognize how fortunate we are for having a home that has absolutey everything we need and have decided to not register for gifts. The most important thing for us is your presence during the day to celebrate our marriage. But if you do still wish to make a gesture, there will be a card box at the wedding reception as we will be using the cards to put in a scrapbook of our wedding day!".
I'm trying not to make it seem like I just want cash as I truly do just want the keepsakes. Do you believe the wording on this is okay? Thank you!

8 Comments

Latest activity by Alejandra, on December 6, 2019 at 8:04 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don't think you need to say anything at all. Since you don't have a registry, guests are going to default to cash gifts, and they're going to give you a card with that gift. 95% of our guests gave us cash, check, or gift cards and not one of them came without a card.

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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
    Christine ·
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    I would change the wording a little bit to make it clear that you're looking for sweet notes from your guests, not cards filled with cash.

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  • N
    VIP September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    I think what you said is perfect and I wouldn't change it. I think putting something helps guests and you made it clear that the cash isn't important but the cards for a scrapbook. Well done!

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I wouldn't write anything. If you're not registering, people will give cards with cash or checks most likely. Even if you were registering, most people send a card as well. It just seems very disingenuous to me to say essentially "we definitely don't want anything, but if you want to give us something - this is what we want." Just dont' say anything and you will get tons of cards anyway.

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    I wouldn't even mention it in my opinion. I think your guests will see on your invitations/website that you aren't registered anywhere. and a majority of your family and friends will already know you moved and had a house warming.

    my DH and i didn't register, had no engagement party nor bridal shower. we didn't mention anything but put out a box and received tons of cards.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I agree with PPs that not mentioning it would be better, in my opinion! Most people will bring cards anyway Smiley smile

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    Another vote for saying nothing. People will figure out you don't have a registry and they will very likely bring/send cards -- typically with cash or a check. Saying anything, without getting awkwardly specific about what you do and don't want, is easy to misinterpret.

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    I like how you worded it. If you truly don’t want anything, then maybe mention that you’d love a donation or a charity in your honor and just a card for your scrapbook. That way no one will think you’re asking for cash. Smiley smile but I do like the way you worded it, very classy.
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